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Tuesday, 25 February 2014

Found in a second hand bookshop. OOOOOOO I do think that we ladies need to respond !

                     Found in a second hand bookshop, always a great place for those 'finds'.

For whatever reason this notice reminds me of my favourite Christmas song and that is of
Ertha Kitt singing Santa Baby, 
Ertha Kitt was an ‘Old Fashioned Girl’, a sensual person and very OTT with no need for overt crudity.
The transcribed notice rather spoils the effect, but here goes.

ANATOMIC MASS: Accepted as 55kg but known to vary from 45kg to 225kg.
1.       Body surface normally covered with film of powder and paint.
2.       Boils at absolutely nothing – freezes for no apparent reason.
3.       Found in various grades ranging from virgin material to common ore.
1.       Reacts well to gold, platinum and all precious stones.
2.       Explodes spontaneously without reason or warning.
3.       The most powerful money reducing agent known to man.
1.       Highly ornamental, especially in sports cars.
2.       Can greatly aid relaxation.
3.       Can be a very effective cleansing agent.
1.       Turns green when placed alongside a superior model.
2.       Possession of more than one is possible but specimens must never make eye contact.

Saturday, 22 February 2014

What is in a name?

What is in a name?
M’reen ©

Of the names in my father’s family tree from 1100 to 1340, Robert, William and Isabel form part of
3 of my 4 sibling’s names and I have an aunty Olive and Agnes.
From my mother’s family from 1830 the following names are repeated: Mary, Robert, Isabel, Edward and William. I started out as Jane after my mother and became Maureen because my father thought that Maureen O’Hara, the film star, was so beautiful.

This is really an up-date or correction to my article:
How do I know if I have a problem and how big it is?    
I asked a lady to muscle test if her name was xxx and nothing happened!!!!
I got the feeling that she didn’t like her name, so I had to think a little
as happens every time something goes wrong or you need to check your results.
It would have been more appropriate to ask, ‘is xxxx the name this person/group knows me as?’
I have three names dependent upon who I am with; there is my family name, the name I’ve used
for over a decade and that has 3 spellings as I try to get the printed word to generate the sound
of my name. Then there is the name I call myself and is only used by two people.
I suppose I could add personal family names and pet names to the list.
Oh, I’ve been called Miss Morning and Mummeen by 3 year olds and I do like those names.
Before you jump in, No, I don’t have a problem with my personality.
Think of yourself as child, parent, employer, holidaymaker, confident, scared or any other part
you may play during the course of a day and you still know who you are.
I don’t pretend to understand numerology but my family name – which was not my birth name – matches the name I choose for myself. I just thought that I’d throw that one in.

Why might a person not muscle test to the name they have just introduced themselves as?
As pointed out, it might not be the name they consciously or subconsciously recognise themselves as. It may be a name they feel belongs to someone else such as the wrong gender, a dead, disliked
or unknown family member or given to them by someone with whom they feel in discord.
Such a name has expectations that the current holder may not wish to comply with or ‘live up to’.
Then of course there is no way in which you can guess what the kids in the playground will do
to a beautiful name or the tone of voice used or an unpleasant pre-fix attached to a name
and the feelings that these may have generated and have not been dealt with.
I know a beautiful and very much loved child with two ‘dead’ names;
I hope that her future continues to be secure.
I know a three year old who changed the pronunciation of his name.
I know a teenager who changed her last name in order to reject her father and step-father.
I‘ve spoken with a number of adults who are referred to daily by a name that in essence
sets their teeth on edge.
I know someone who was buried with a name that her children did not recognise.

The energy surrounding your name is to be cherished and nurtured
and if your name does not belong to you (maybe get help) to make friends with the name
or to claim your right to be who you really are.

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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Saturday, 15 February 2014

Whatever has Mountain Dew got to do with Memory, Learning and Confidence?

These gigantic tyres belong to the Bury St Edmund's Rugby Club. UK

Whatever has Mountain Dew got to do with Memory, Learning and Confidence?
M'reen Hunt

Mountain Dew was his language, his experience, his security.
My computer programmes, chocolate, purchased and created aids belonged to the confused world.

While memory is built up in layers it is stored in bits in apparently random places and re-created each time it is recalled. I understand that a CD or DVD does not store information in a sequential pattern but in various segments across the disk; and yet the music or film is recalled in perfect order.
If you load information: a,b,c,d,e,f,g onto a disk and a little late your delete b, c and f then the next pieces of information you load will fill up those empty spaces first and not necessarily in linear order.
I think that this is one of the ways that a creative combination of ideas can emerge – eureka!
Additionally you can think of memory recall as a chain that has been build up of sequences.
If a link or segment is missing or defective then the whole cannot be recalled.
In such I cases I would say, “I read something somewhere that said something along the lines of ….”
Then they say that if you want to really know a subject then you teach it.
Into this statement is built in the detailed learning of the subject so that you can explain 
or demonstrate it externally and that repetition of knowledge builds in repeated practice.
Repetition or habit is one of five proposed learning gateways to the mind.
For these reasons when Inner Mind Reading you would elicit the information in sequence;
each layer building on the last and also being efficient in time as you do not elicit information
that is not to be used at this time. Also with each success you are building confidence.
There is also the state and none state theory of memory.
Followed by: where memory is stored; is it confined within your scull or in every cell of your body?
However, right now we are concerned with the memorising of information, clearly and long term.

Does memory come before learning?
I leave that for you to debate.
Learning is acquired in layers, by practice and with increasing confidence.
Confidence is being able to perform a skill whereas self esteem is having secure inner regard.
Learning can enter the mind / body by a proposed five routes:
Trauma, habit, hero worship (think pop stars, advertisements etc), authority figures (think parents, law, religion etc) and alpha (in hypnotherapy we use the authority of the self during the alpha state 
to access the other four areas of learning.)
The learning state of alpha is natural and starts to initiate as soon as you close your eyes or focus increasingly inwards on a subject, novel, film, conversation etc. In doing any of these activities
you could be considered to be in an enhanced environment. Each time you experience something your brain immediately starts laying down the foundations for its memory/recall and this requires a new neural network – or extra space on the CD. This is a purely physical matter; think of someone who’s been confined to bed and you recognise that their muscles atrophy or an elderly person
who’s hormones have altered and therefore does not have the capacity of the young or a person
who’s family history indicates a ‘weak’ heart; if any of these people increase their exercise then new muscles and veins etc are created. Similarly the great ‘they’ took a number of mice from their boring cage and put them into a cage with interesting activities. The enhanced activity mice stayed in this enriched environment for shorter and shorter periods of time so that eventually the scientists found that the building of neural networks started as soon as the mice entered the enriched environment.
It is not simply a case of use it or lose it but also of continuing or starting to build your abilities.
With Inner Mind Reading after you have poured all that information into your inner mind
and submitted a request for certain information that satisfied your purpose to be recalled for your first layer of learning recall you then get out of the way and give your neural network the chance
to organise itself and create the necessary new neurons.

I was engaged to help a 13 year old get past his problems with algebra (the fact that algebra is a complete mystery to me is irrelevant). My intent was to find the point just before, that is the point 
of his security. I got forward to fractions as the first point of insecurity, the frightening quagmire with 
no way out. I used my skills, my ingenuity and we got nowhere. I then grabbed the empty bottles 
of Mountain Dew he and his father had been drinking and put a fraction of water in one of them.
Mountain Dew was safe, it was part of his understanding and it had nothing to do with fractions.
Light dawned and very rapidly he was able to bring into his confidence the things his teachers 
had been trying to teach him. I find it interesting that when you work with critical incident de-briefing you take the person back to their point of confidence before the trauma, or series of little traumas, and ‘lock’ them into their confidence. Another description of this is to ‘anchor’ them in the safe experience of themselves before the distressing incident; or the last straw that broke the camel’s back if there has been a series of accumulating stresses.

How is this expressed in Inner Mind Reading?
By building up the sequence of Inner Mind Reading using the language with which you are most familiar, expressed as ‘your primary and secondary learning modalities’.
In English that means starting with the simple and building into the more detailed how-tos
of each stage: You pour the written information into your inner mind thus bypassing your eyes
and conscious mind, unexpectedly to your experience, at this stage the information 
is unavailable to you. You then do nothing while you let your inner mind create the necessary neurons while cataloguing this information. Finally you bring the information that is required at this moment into your conscious awareness.
These three little points are then built upon as your knowledge (learning), security (confidence)
and memory (recall) are extended (enhanced).
The usual last way of eliciting and recording the information you wish from your written material
is to create a mind map and mind maps are an excellent and efficient way for most people to store and recall information. Therefore we start creating mind maps during our first session as a mind map covers the learning styles (your safe language/experience) of being visual – I’ve seen some that are works of art. For those who learn best by hearing I tell stories that builds up dialogue in your mind and these stories are copied with a few words on the mind map. For the kiensthetic and those who like the security of notes and handouts you are physically building up a representation of your learning in a way that satisfies your personal experience while encompassing the necessary structure of the learning process. For those of you who use olfactory and gustatory points of reference
I’m afraid that you’ll have to add these yourself and are encouraged to do so.
So with our Inner Mind Reading partnership we start with the end in mind
and build in everything to ensure your success. My web based tuition is being created in MP3 and MP4 formats.
If you have a question, no matter how small, please pose it in the comment box below. Thanks.

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Saturday, 8 February 2014

How do I know if I have a problem and how big it is?

I've forgotten where we were dowsing, though I can 'see' that place in my mind's eye.
Photo taken by M'reen

How do I know if I have a problem and how big it is?
M'reen Hunt

There are many ways to find out if you have a concern or the answer to a question
and I shall describe four; one of which I cannot do.
Dowsers, kinesiologists and a good number of others might insist on pre questions or procedures but I don’t have time to itemise those here; so we’ll just ‘go for it’ or you could put your Magnificent Self 
in charge; this is an Energetic – NLP term meaning the combination of your Inner Wisdom which is based in your day to day reality with your Spirit which has an overview of your life’s big picture.

Why might you want to do this?
In Turbo Charged Reading we use purpose to set the course for success
and mind instructions to direct the innermind in the type of success wanted at that time.
If you do not believe that these are attainable for you
then your subconscious gremlins will delight in ensuring that subconscious belief.

Stand up and say to yourself ‘I am (10 or so years younger than your age)’
then ‘I’m (the age you are)’. What do you feel? What happened? Nothing?
Now tell yourself that you’ll lean backwards if your answer is ‘No’ and forward if your answer is ‘Yes’.
It’s always useful for your subconscious to know what is expected of it so that it can respond appropriately. There are reasons why ‘No’ is back, but not now.
Now ask yourself those questions again. Try ‘I’m a man’, ‘I’m a woman’, ‘I’m a child’ and anything else you care to find a ‘yes’, ‘no’ answer for or if you remain static then that counts as a response that says ‘I’m not sure / I’m not ready to answer yet’. Should you remain static between man and woman it may mean that you are nicely balanced between the masculine and feminine, or balanced between adult and child so ask, 'is my current front door black?'. 
What can you use this for? Examples could be: ‘is it helpful for my health / diet for me to eat cabbage’? Cabbage is a wonderful and very beneficial vegetable but too much of it can be too much for certain people / conditions. You may used these methods to discover food sensitivities particularly as our metabolism changes at points in our life and health; even during the day
as our food intake changes.
However, it is wise to remember that Midas knew exactly what he intended and he received exactly what he asked for! So you need a mind sharper than any lawyer and if your mind is not that sharp why not try asking a checking question?

Touch your thumb tip to your index finger tip and link your other thumb and index finger so that you now have a chain. Now ask ‘give me yes’ please’ and repeatedly gently pull your circles apart
and eventually after a few pulls you will find that one circle will break. Now ask, ‘give me No please’
and gently pull your circles apart a few times and the opposite circle will break.
I know a prospective Deacon of a church take her multi-choice exam using this method!
I am aware of a therapist who uses this to decide the best time for a client’s next appointment.
This one I’m not sure about because I thought that time is elastic and therefore things can change but another argument is that time is not linear. 
However, unfortunately, these dowsing or energy testing techniques cannot be used for finding 
the winning lottery numbers. – There is always a catch isn’t there!

Imagine that you can see traffic lights. It is easier if you close your eyes until you get the hang 
of this next one. Red means ‘no’ or ‘stop’, amber means ‘I’m not sure / I’m not ready to answer yet’ and green means ‘yes’ or ‘go’. You could ask if you believe an affirmation because if you don’t then the affirmation is counter productive for you. You could ask if your purpose for a project is in keeping with your overall life needs, or if your purpose is sufficiently specific. In Turbo Charged Reading we use both Purpose and Affirmations (as mind Instructions - thee is a difference )as the driving force to the process; though when I used to forget to use the affirmations it worked well anyway but since I like as much on my side as possible
I use affirmations and check that they are compatible with my beliefs about my abilities
or self confidence / esteem.

Finally, try dowsing with a pendulum. Much to the disgust of a friend I use anything that will act
as a plum bob such as a shoulder bag, a trainer dangling from a lace, a dangly necklace, etc.
Ask your pendulum to give you ‘yes’ then ask for ‘no’. For me ‘yes’ is a clockwise circle and ‘no’
is anti-clockwise; however some people have up and down for ‘yes’ and across for ‘no’.
I asked if I could physically achieve …… and received a ‘yes’. I then asked if I believed that I could achieve …. I received a ‘No’!!! This is because it is perfectly logical that a spider treated with respect
is not going to hurt you but do you believe this? A person with arachnid phobia will not believe.
Here it is useful to note that Carl G. Jung said that every man is born prejudice towards himself
and that he couldn’t use the I Ching because he had a vested interest in the outcome.

What is happening and why? And why do these techniques work?
As you found if you don’t set up the signals for yes and no then, generally, nothing happens.
If you hung a pendulum on a door knob and asked the same questions then nothing would happen.
That you get the answer to the question you actually ask your subconscious mind;
but importantly you may not be aware or cannot be aware with your current conscious knowledge
that there is an alternative question.
These responses are rather like a thermometer, a Geiger counter, a second hand or anything else that amplifies a signal so that it can be appreciated and measured.
We amplify our inner vibes or knowings and we can also amplify what we energetically perceive
in others and this generates the response of the technique we are using.
Even though you can’t actually see it you are swinging the pendulum as you are reacting 
to the energy of your own knowings or your energetic perception of the other person.
Sometimes the ‘handles’ of dowsing rods are in cylinders so that it is impossible for you to affect 
their direction. The dowsing rods are reacting to the energy of the ley lines etc that are travelling through you in much the same way as a weather cock reacts to the wind.
For example I dowsed where the dragon and dragona ley lines crossed in Thetford Uk,
as I was standing on this junction a friend then said, ‘close your eyes’ and I rocked rather dramatically as the energy wooshed up through my body!

Are we all equally sensitive and can we all ‘do’ this?
We all have the potential but like everything else it is easier for some than it is for others.
Also, some people can work with one sort of energy and not with another, or poorly with another.
At teacher training college we had a Galvonic Skin Bridge, this was an elementary lie detector
that measured the skin sweat or temperature – I forget which. With one guy we tried our dirtiest tricks but we couldn’t get anything but a flat line, with another we had to pull out all the stops
to get a small blip and when one girl agreed that the blue pencil was red and it went haywire.
For myself I couldn’t achieve a straight line so no one could find my truth or lie; though when
I trained as a hypnotherapist one guy knew every time I lied because I clench my teeth when I lie. Therefore we are all sending out energy or vibes and sometimes we can be aware of our own energies or the energies of others. Time and distance make no difference to people who are adept
at perceiving energy and transmitting energy. I just thought I‘d throw all that in for good measure.

What to do now that you have identified an issue?
Well you could check out my other articles on how to resolve issues or you could try the psychological reversal TFT or EFT tapping point as we do with Turbo Charged Reading as then we are not ‘doing therapy’ we are simply finding if the purpose and mind instructions are positive for that time.
To do this find the karate chop point at the side of your hand, that is the pad below your little finger and above your wrist and having found this tap it a few times with the finger tips of your other hand. When I tried this with my negative belief in my physical potential I got a neutral position with the pendulum, an amber traffic light or the stationary position when standing.
I then tapped a few more times before I received the positive response that I now believed
it is possible for me to achieve ….. On re-checking this a few days later
I still maintained a positive belief – I’ll keep you posted. Yes, I achieved with the help of a professional.

The neutral position, can you be more specific?
Neutral can mean that you are not ready to move yet and this would be worked with therapeutically
as would being somewhat stuck. With Turbo Charged Reading we are not in a therapeutic situation
and would simply use a different acceptable purpose of mind instruction or treat the neutral position
simply as just a point on a scale that we want to get into the positive range.
How do you find the 1 to 10 scale people ask for when trying to gauge how distressing an issue is and whether or not it has cleared up?
This, not surprisingly, is called a S.U.D. that is a Subjective Unit of Distress.
Imagine a thermometer, a fuel gauge or ask for a number (that may flash) or if you are like me you just take a wild guess. Actually there is nothing ‘wild’ about these guesses it’s just that I don’t ‘see’ 
nor am I consciously aware of these figures so I just have to trust my subconscious mind to come up with the right figure.
For example take a phobia and for me, as a therapist, they come as a five minute phobia cure,
a twenty minute phobia healing or it may take a few sessions in order to resolve the issue.
When using a SUD the person generally sets off with a high number which reduces however some people allow the second time of asking for the number to rise and this simply means that they are allowing themselves to feel the ‘fear’ more accurately and so they are making admirable progress.
Keep tapping or using the method of your choice until your number comes down to a level that is reasonable with whatever is happening in your life at this time. So while 1 or 2 or even 0 is desirable 
it might not be practical when taking all your other considerations into account.
Or your issue might be such that to release it all now might be far too uncomfortable
and so it is healthier for you to release a little bit now and a little more later on or in a day or so.

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Turbo Charged Reading: Read fast>>>Remember all>>>Years later
You can TCR specialist and language dictionaries that are spontaneously accessed.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube 
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Friday, 7 February 2014

Circular Magic Rainbow

Bildeston UK. Behind the King's Head 

Circular Magic Rainbow 
M’reen Hunt ©

Art Giser, the Creator OF Energetic-NLP suggests that you end an energy healing session
by visualising/imagining or whatever works for you a circular rainbow high above your head.
I have seen double rainbows; I have even seen two rainbows form perfect crossed arches in SN
and EW directions but a circular rainbow has always been a construct – until this afternoon.
Your circular rainbow showers you with all the colours, hues, vibrations and all the energies you cannot be aware of and these flush through your body and energy systems cleansing and healing.
Today, my circular rainbow was composed of hundreds and millions of tiny little rainbow smiles!
Can you imagine the JOY of hundreds and millions of tiny little rainbow smiles dancing through
your body and energy systems, caressing and soothing your body and energy systems?
I sincerely hope that you too may experience the playfulness of circular rainbows.

You can TCR software and engineering manuals for spontaneous recall – or pass that exam.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube  
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

Advanced Reading Skills Perhaps you’d like to join my FaceBook group ?

Perhaps you’d like to check out my sister blogs:
All aspects of regular, each-word reading and education.
Turbo Charged Reading uses these skills significantly faster               Personal business development.        just for fun.

To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Tuesday, 4 February 2014

Elementals, angels, aliens, wind and gravity.

In All Saints Church grounds, Thetford Forest I felt the elememtals around this tree stump.


My personal response to elementals has demanded to be written 
before the question 'what are they' has been poised.
You can look up a definition of elementals, angels, aliens, the wind and gravity.
Regarding angels and aliens; some people see, communicate with or are these beings.
If you have never experienced, say an angel, it needs to appear in your perception as something that you recognise as an angel. If it appeared as a sea lion, then you’d experience a sea lion.
Regarding the wind and gravity, most of us are fortunate in having experienced and used the wind and gravity. However, if you could not remember the descriptor ‘wind’ how could you describe your experience? Apparently speakers of modern Latin are having to use full sentences to describe things that were not around all those years ago – baseball – the internet.
Gravity, what could be simpler? Connect tree with apple and head J There is a word for gravity
in all languages BUT apparently the scientists do not have an explanation for gravity!
In my opinion everything has an energy that can be perceived by those who are sensitive
to its energy signature. Even a postage stamp (on a demand payment or a love letter.)
So the energies found in nature have a descriptor in order that we can share in the same conversation. A descriptor then needs a recognised form from which a ‘character’ is built.
Think of the word Chair, what sort of chair springs to mind?
Baby bear’s chair, your safe cuddle chair, an electric chair – recliner, dentist or more sinister?
After a deeply emotional experience in a church that was probably a past life – of mine
or one I tuned into? I was very sensitive to my surroundings and I noticed a bract fungus that was not overhanging a tree stump but was plonked on top of the table. Approaching this stump in order to take a photograph I became very aware of the energy of the stump. A person who perceives elementals confirmed that this was their home and requested that we respect their privacy.
I didn’t ‘see’ any form; I just felt whatever I felt like sunshine on my face it was / is part
of my experience of this life and earth I live in.

Now, it’s your turn to add your two pence’s worth.

This article was prompted by my painting of The Beech Nut Fairy
I posted this on  and I described it as:
I have quite a collection of Cicely Mary Barker's fairy books.
The last few years I have become sufficiently sensitive to feel the energy of some trees
and have spent time 'making friends' with a sycamore tree on Newmarket's July Race Course.

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Saturday, 1 February 2014


                            My father carved these award winning shepherd's crooks. He is now 92.

When people decide to become a client and work with their issue I ask them to fill in
a fact sheet and on the back of this personal details sheet is
The Magic Fairy Wish List and ‘Selfish’ is something a lot of people tick for the things
they wish to alter about themselves.
This wish list forms a potted history of your views of their place in your world
and most people seem to think that being selfish is a demerit,
that it says something mean about themselves that they wish to eliminate.
In fact ‘selfish’ is replaced by the computer generated synonyms with:-
self-centred, self-seeking, self-interested, egotistical, egotistic and egocentric
and with the antonym as altruistic which in turn can be replaced with:
unselfish, humane, selfless, and philanthropic.
A synonym is a word having the same significance as another,
the antonym being its opposite.

I would like to seriously argue against these authorities!

My argument is simply this, that a well rounded, person who is secure in their own centre, 
enjoys being selfish because in being so they have a secure sense of self.
They are happy and comfortable with the fact that when they truly love themselves
then they can truly love others without their ego screaming for attention.
That when their inner self is content then they can freely give to others,
not needing a return on the gift, i.e. ‘brownie points’.
If your own inner voice or people around you scream, ‘you’re selfish’, ‘you must share’
 or ‘ you cannot put yourself first’, then you can now recognise these voices as insecure bullies 
that are afraid that you have the confidence that they dare not consider.
These guilt trips are to be recognised as the external pressures of others,
even if you have accepted and internalised these attitudes from the authority figures
of your innocent and gullible youth.
Consider this next thought as a variation of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, which in principle states 
that one must satisfy lower needs before being able to appreciate a higher level need.
So, for that reason, when travelling by air, you are always advised, indeed instructed,
to apply your own oxygen mask before that of your much loved child or fragile baby.
While understanding the cold practicality of this, I feel I would have to fight hard to comply 
with these essential instructions.
Therefore in order to take the ego out of self-centred, self-seeking, self-interested,
then your ‘self’ has to be secure, satisfied and content so that you can go forwards
with the synonyms of philanthropic which are:- generous, big-hearted, altruistic,  benevolent, charitable, giving and good hearted.
Consequently you do not need to grow into the insecure guilt trip of others to avoid being selfish, 
but into the selfishness of completing your inner journey to yourself, that is knowing and accepting yourself and your boundaries, before your can truly let your generosity flow out freely to others.
Being secure in your boundaries also enables you to say. ‘No’, with integrity!
Being unable to say, ‘No’ is also on my Magic Fairy Dust list.
One of the other points of this list is that sometimes I can slip in extra healing
if I know that it is appropriate for you.
Also, it prepares me for the unexpected as your subconscious will work on
what’s appropriate for you, at that time, and maybe not what we set out to
work with that session. Lastly it gives you an opportunity to let me know things you forgot
to mention during the initial consultation.

While hypnotherapy is not magic, it sometimes feels that way.

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