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Saturday, 25 January 2014

Spitting feathers angry!!!!!!!!!!

Spitting feathers angry!!!!!!!!!!
M’reen Hunt (c) 

I was angry, so very, very, very  angry that words cannot describe how angry I was.

First some essential background.
I have a qualification in Dream Work and some famous author (it was a long time ago) dreamt 
that she was at dinner and that she hated with a passion the woman sat opposite to her.
She then realised that the woman was herself and that this was a dream.
With that realisation she knew that she could not physically hurt the woman opposite
she proceeded to beat her up reducing that part of herself to a mangled pulp.
As a counsellor; in ‘real’ life with such passion it may be suggested that a person take a Stanley knife and slash a photo to pieces as the person photographed cannot be injured.
As a hypnotherapist I may arrange that the offending person can be required to sit and listen
while the aggrieved can shout, kick, scream and physically beat up as much as they wish.
One client used to put offending people through a giant paper shredded on the beach. 
I often wondered how she managed when she met them later that day in the pub! 
The person required to sit and listen, often a parent, is usually shocked at the hurt
they have inflicted on their loved child and offer an explanation as to why and they then
beg forgiveness which is generally accepted. ‘Generally’ requires just a little more work.
Forgiveness does not mean condoning the action;
it means you letting go of the effect those actions previously had on your well being.

Back to my very deep anger.
Now I would deal with such anger in a different way
but all those years ago I used the skills I then had .
I forget my first foray. During my second piece of trance work (thinking of the picture) I really wanted to slash my former husband with a large shard of greenish glass. I wanted to cut him to miniscule shreds. But.  My goody two shoes self wouldn’t let me!!!!! This gremlin kept arguing that he 
was the best person he could be. (Thinking of the dream) I thought ‘just let me get him’!
No! You can’t. You are a nice person, nice people understand – and all that rubbish!
This argument went on for quite some time.
In the end I contented myself with putting him in a large skip and burying him with tons
of broken shards of ¼ to ½ inch thick glass. (Warning – DO NOT mess with mama bear!)
The next time I was simply far too angry to work with myself; so I took my issue to a fellow hypnotherapist who worked with my specific type of anger using TFT. This seemed to satisfy me.
However, a few years later I decided to make sure when working with a pair of Shaman.
Although my former husband had never physically abused me (in this life) I asked that any issues involving abuse were cleared. I don’t ‘see’ or ‘experience’ much when working with the Shaman,
just enough to be involved with the process. He or was it she journeyed for me hundreds of years ago to a severely abusive relationship where I was battered so much that I was unable to have children 
(I have three). The situation was that there was no point in running away as there was no way 
to support myself. But my former self had the guts to run away (good girl) but was unfortunately dragged back. I experienced myself as being dragged back by my long brown hair
however the Shaman said that it was long and black.
Six months later at the encouragement of our son, my former husband rang to say that he was sorry.
For myself, I admired his ability to contact me, but for me there was nothing to forgive.

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Saturday, 18 January 2014

Your body leads your mind and your mind leads your body.

Mum and Dad won every competition they were eligible for.

Your body leads your mind and your mind leads your body.
M’reen Hunt ©

Below Tony Robins describes how he used his body to affect his mind.
I don’t imagine that for one second he uses those methods now
but they make a good and exciting demonstrative story.
When describing the trance state to clients or the learning state to Inner Mind Reading students
I often use the following examples as these identical states mean moving from the chatty active state of beta brain wave to the slower meditative state of alpha brain waves.
This is a process you cycle through many times a day and is most easily recognised when you drift into sleep and drift into wakefulness. Or when you are ‘miles away’; totally absorbed in a book, film 
or conversation so that the rest of the world melts away and when you find that you have driven
for miles and cannot remember the last roundabout or intersection.
In all these states and stages of alpha you have behaved perfectly safely and in control
because alpha is a perfectly normal brain wave sate for you to experience.
It is not an on/off switch but more of a balance of degree, the flow of water through a tap.
The chemicals of your body can be altered in nano seconds and they obviously affect your emotional ability to the degree of their alteration.

If you are sitting, look down, put your  elbows on your knees and your head in your hands and let your shoulders slump and in this recognised depressed body posture science records that your depressed chemicals flood though your body – fast!
This is an example of the body leading the mind.
Now think of something wonderful, for me it is the vibrant laughter in my grandchildren’s eyes,
think of something exciting, laughter inducing or whatever brings joy to your mind.
Your body will raise; your body chemicals will alter in a split second, your muscle tone
and everything physical and therefore emotional will change.

A friend hypnotherapist used to complain of a bad back and stand when speaking with a depressed client as it caused them to look up. Depressed people look down! So when you find yourself walking along looking at the pavement absorbed in your unpleasant thoughts simply look up. Observe the skyline, the tree tops the roof lines; I bet you didn’t realise just how interesting roof lines can be!
Your mind is now otherwise engaged; your eyes are no longer downcast but are the opposite
to depressed and over concerned; they are open to more light – an important consideration.
Whistle. It is physically impossible to be depressed or unhappy when you whistle. Now you may not be the world’s greatest warbler but you can whistle inside you mind and if you are like me
it takes quite a bit of concentration and you will end up laughing inside.
Another body leading the mind strategy is to pretend to physically belly laugh; that is to exaggerate the movements of laughing like a clown. Put your fist on your tummy and breathe out loudly ha, ha, while simultaneously jogging your head and shoulders forward. I clearly remember the first time
I tried this, exactly where I was standing and the thought of, ‘what if someone was to see me
do such a silly movement’ this caused me to laugh out loud genuinely. And that simple memory always caused the rush of laughter within my body – in NLP terms this is known as an anchor
or in hypnotherapy as a trigger – a traffic light is a trigger as when it flashed red  you stop
you don’t think - you simply stop.
Tony Robins describes how he used his body to engage his mind in a positive, can-do, invincible attitude that was actualised in his voice, words, posture, demeanour and ultimate success.
Bruce Springsteen describes a mind trigger when he said that if he didn’t feel nervous before
a performance he wasn’t ‘pumped’ and he needed that excitement to perform and to engage
with the excitement from the crowd.
Look at a little child, their bodies brim and bristle with emotion particularly around the age of 18 months to two when often such exuberance is socialised out of them.
Think of exercise, dancing, smiling, listening to exciting music and any other physical activity that lifts your mood and just play it through in your mind maybe with a John Cleese Ministry of Silly Walks background.

Remaining with body triggers (think of a light switch) I always end a trance session in the same way as this serves two principal purposes. Firstly the person knows that their body and mind is to return up to the active waking state and secondly, should they have been consciously or subconsciously resisting the therapeutic values they have paid for, their mind thinks, ‘OK that‘s it, time to go home now,’ and they drop their defences and the therapy work slips in. Magic! During this time I also add some other features including: “whenever you stop at a traffic light, your shoulders drop a little and any stresses of the day simply fall away like water off a duck back.” I think I describe the benefits of this elsewhere. So you can consciously employ these physical techniques to everyday stressful situations of your own. From DOWN to UP or UP to DOWN.

Sometimes this is as simple as relaxing your body even if you have to force your body to relax.
When I start a relaxation process I am often surprised to find that I am, in fact, holding tension in my muscles.
Hypnotherapists often use body relaxation to help people enter the trance state of alpha.
The therapist simply starts at the top of the head and works down the body or starts from the toes and works up describing the state of relaxation in detail. I don’t generally do this as I find it to be
a waste of time and not particularly interesting. But when I‘ve experienced this myself
I will be consciously thinking, ‘just a minute my shoulders have not relaxed and you’re talking about my tummy!’ While I’m busy concentrating about my shoulders and arguing inside I’m not paying any attention to the rest of my body which is happily relaxing into trance and eventually there is more
of me relaxed than not and my shoulders eventually give up and go with the consensus.  
However, one girl dramatically jerked back into full alertness when I reached her tummy
so after discussion I asked her and when we reached her tummy I asked her tummy if it was OK
for it to stay alert while the rest of her body relaxed and this worked well.
In everyday situations some people advise you to clench a muscle and then let it relax however
this can raise your blood pressure while the relaxation above actually reduces your blood pressure, body temperature and chemical activity.
Employ the opposite of The Ministry of Silly Walks and behave as if or imagine yourself as if you are the calmest person or animal or feeling that is possible for you and score yourself and then see if you can become even calmer.

You may find these to be helpful.

Memories are made up of little moments

My glimpse of death

Magic, chocolate and hypnotherapy

Happy gardens

Analysis versus feeling

Grounding by centering in your space

Purpose is the driving force of life
Grow to accept people
Grow to accept people

Broken spines

Powerful magic of bubbles

Choosing  an appropriate book
How do you decide what is the most important aspect of your concern right now?
How do I know if I have a problem
and how big it is?

I’m smarter that the average bear.

Hay fever or Newmarket nose?

If I had to wander this earth for eternity

Anniversary stress and illness
Words that can get u into and out of trouble

Give gifts
How to say what you need to say

What can u do about the stress in your life

Dragon story

Problems flow into and out of your arm

Your body leads your mind.

Saturday, 11 January 2014

Problems can flow into and out of your arm.

The paintings behind are by Jaquie Jones of Newmarket. UK

Problems can flow into and out of your arm.
M'reen Hunt (c)

For readers of my blogs below you will know that I haven’t had a cold for over 10 years 
and that for the first time I recently stopped a bout of flu.
This morning I sneezed for ages and the familiar nose and head thing crept up, so instead 
of ‘stopping it in its tracks as I don’t need this’ I decided to do something about the source.
For some of you this will be easy and for others it might take quite a lot of time
and a few of you will just use a different method described elsewhere in these pages.
And of course you will use this for your current personal concern.
I will give you two ways of entering the trance or the resource state.
This first one is fascinating and you might want to do it just for fun, but if you do so, 
remember to stamp your feet and slap your thighs or generally move around to bring your mind back
to its chatty beta state and if you physically can’t move then you know that all you have to do
is think of these things and your mind will perk up.

1} Lay your non-dominant hand on your lap or a table; this is the one you DON’T write with.
Stare at a spot, ridge or ring on your hand and keep repeating: “my hand will rise, I won’t stop
my hand from rising and I won’t make my hand rise but my hand will rise of its own accord.” Occasionally you will blink, but keep staring and keep repeating. This is not magic, your mind and body is programmed to respond.  This is the crazy bit, as your eyes become fatigued you hand will morph and change colours and eventually your hand will rise and stay there until you tell it to fall gently back onto your lap. As a volunteer with Victim Support I explained this to a person and his hand immediately started to rise, I ’told him off’ a number of times and as you can imagine he was very successful with this way of working with his issues. Once your hand has risen you can then work 
with whatever you want; I’ve not tried but it would be interesting to listen to a language CD 
while you’re in this learning alpha state.

2} For those who do not have breathing problems. Close your eyes and relax either into what 
you recognise as a trance or a meditative sate.
I teach this to InnerMindReading students to enable them to enter the learning state.
Put your fist over your heart and close your eyes, breathe in deeply and expand your chest.
Your spine elongates and your shoulders widen as your head rises tall and proud with your nose
and chin horizontal to the floor. In your own time, breathe slowly out allowing your body to curl down somewhat and say (or think) “Relax.”
When breathing in a second time allow your chest to expand a little making your shoulders rise,
then breathe out gently allowing your lower back to curl down and in a softer voice say, “Soften”.
On your third breath, only your chest moves before you breathe out lazily allowing your shoulders
to droop and say, “Flow!

Then you can instruct your non-dominant hand to collect all the different aspects of your issue
and to rise as it collects more and more of that energy.

My hand rose from the elbow and then my elbow rose and even my shoulder so that my hand was almost vertical – rather like being in school which prompted me to think of my flu experiences and expectations of family and society. All the time I was talking to myself about different flu physical experiences and sensations, I was talking about my flu feelings and anything else flu related that came into my mind. None of this was really necessary, but this was my experience, when I ran out of things to think about and my arm was still rising I gave things over to my magnificent self that knows and understands everything about me from a day to day basis to my spiritual journey.

I asked that all aspects and levels of flu pass into my arm and that it would rise as it collected these energies. Generally my hand only rises towards my shoulder but this time when I thought my arm would have difficulty in rising further I asked that these collective energies would pass
through to the collective unconscious or whoever your God is to be healed;
for the energy to be broken down to its constituent parts and to become something useful and beautiful. Just go with whatever comes into your mind as you cannot possibly make a mistake.

Eventually my arm started to very slowly fall and eventually, for the first time, it got completely stuck!  
But I get a little ahead of my thought process – I know – I’m a bit analytical and you should go with 
the flow, but then again I tend to avoid shoulds and musts like the plague as they are often guilt trips imposed by others. And how am I suppose to understand and report my experience if I don’t think, thinking is part of who I am, it is how I express my feelings and ‘felt sense’ that is my knowings.
Stuck! How could I possibly be stuck! I’d given permission to my magnificent self to collect
and release all aspects and variations of my experiences of flu throughout time.
What else?
Acceptance of course!
There is always the opposite that provides the balance in life.
I then welcomed abundant and beautiful health into every cell of my body and other such thoughts and slowly, very, very slowly, as I (presumably) accepted more inherent health my hand 
very gradually returned to my lap. During this time I was aware not only of feelings of joy but also
of the feelings in my head and fizzyness in my nose and as I write this there is still a little residue,
but it doesn’t matter as it will go in its own time.  Just for this article I checked my inner beliefs using 
a pendulum (a little torch on a wrist string was handy) and these physical sensations will work their way through my system.

Some months later. After dabbling with repetitive flu as often happens some years within a community, I have not had any flue like symptoms. Let’s see what the next flu season has to being.

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which takes advantage of the experience and expertise of others.

Saturday, 4 January 2014

Part of you may be thinking that this is a waste of time and your money

Like a Humming bird my dragon changes colour with the flash of light.

Dragon Story.
M'reen Hunt (c) 

And suddenly, your world is filled with the ominous sight as the dragon fills the space by the mountainside and you become part of your bolder, in fact you try to be the bolder as he sweeps down the valley his wings making deep turbulent whooshing sounds and you notice the branches of the trees singeing and swaying like seaweed in the strong ocean currents. The petrifying thrill of danger crashes with the cold, hard feel of your video as your fingers press record, and without seeing, your eyes skim to check the red recording light, but really all they see is the rainbow flash as the silver shafts of the dying sun strike the dragon’s outstretched wings that blaze from blood red crimson to shimmering emerald that instantly merges with deepest cold cobalt blue. He’s searching, searching, looking and mewing in that plaintive, bone chilling cry, searching with those far seeing eyes looking for movement, any movement, feeling the air and a crazy part of you is reading the headlines, ‘George captures the dragon on video’. No. Concentrate, don’t breath, and you feel the heat as the grass is withering before his gigantic shadow, and his head is snaking this way, looking, smelling, sensing, and he passes over your bolder so close that you can taste his sulphurous breath, the smell of death and suddenly he alights and folds those dark wings with their cruel barbs, his head is down, down close to the ground and he is eating, eating some poor defenceless creature, but not you, not you. And he starts to rise, slowly carrying his prize, and you are amazed at how the video just seems to follow him of its own accord as you stare in fatal fascination, your sweat cold, and your heart racing as you adjust the zoom to the carrion he’s carrying. Still shaking that its not you as you zoom in to that limp, helpless shape, noticing the drooping wings, the clawed feet and as the dragon changes direction the sun shimmers crimson and golden on the baby dragon going home.

Now that story is a load of rubbish, I just made it up one day, it doesn’t even believe in full stops,
 it just flows as ‘and’ follows ‘and’. You know that dragon’s aren’t real, so, just because I asked, 
you can go with the flow of the story without criticising too much. If I’d asked you to face that spider, your boss, that appointment, your panic then ‘going with the flow’ would be far more difficult - if not impossible. But was the story such a waste of time? You found out how far you can go with the flow and if you could feel the heat. Covertly you found that you are able to protect yourself from danger, that you can function under stress and that there are recognisable rewards. You may now be wondering how all that is possible, as you only heard a silly children’s story. The more primitive subconscious mind works easily with pictures as language is so ambiguous and belongs to the modern and conscious mind; so your inner mind heard the metaphor or the moral that was applicable to you. But you may ask, ‘how do you know that that story was applicable to everyone in the room’? And I might respond that there are basic emotions and that we all carry an element of fear that 
we’d like to overcome.
Did you hear another sub plot? You may feel that you are being attacked, maybe from unknown sources and so adopt a defensive posture. When in actual fact you are creating that attack in your mind, it is your perception of events because it becomes obvious that the assumed attacker has other interests. You may not be consciously aware of this interpersonal problem, but your subconscious mind recognises this and over prints the new story of the metaphor. In real life, magically ‘the attacker’, the person in question has a change of attitude and you get along with them in a better way. This has happened so many times with others and as you will read, it was my change of attitude – not theirs – that made an iffy relationship great! So the induction (the going into trance bit of our session), or various parts of the therapy section may deliberately use words or parts of words, silences or gaps, little stories (metaphors), or rambling scenarios to speak directly to your subconscious mind that accepts only that which is appropriate at this time.
I feel that the dragon of ancient mythology or the fear from childhood contrasts with the cold plastic video of the present or the reasoning of the adult; this is a rather inelegant attempt at a ‘confusional’, the words spoken should cause you to concentrate on the details of the information until you eventually give up and simply go-with-the –flow. Part of you (the analytical bit) may be thinking that this is a waste of time and your money and while you are arguing the point in your conscious mind you are allowing your appropriate message into your subconscious mind. 
Right now, try not thinking of an elephant, how long is it before you can get that elephant out of your mind? Make it a circus elephant, no, a rampaging wild one. Your subconscious mind is wonderful.
I don’t use this dragon story in therapy, but if I was sat in your chair, I couldn’t ‘see’ a dragon, 
and there is no way in which I could feel the boulder, smell, taste or hear. I just have to go with 
the sense of the story and that is fine, just go with the flow and it will be OK.

Perhaps you’d like to check out my sister blog 
which takes advantage of the experience and expertise of others.