The Working of our Inner Mind leaves energy traces that affect our emotions and abilities. They also affect your surroundings, the
home you live in and your place of work. As a House Whisperer I help to re-balance these energies and to give you tips as to how to help yourself and how to heal your surrounding area. The workings of our mind and energy print is a fascinating and absorbing topic. Enjoy.
I was angry, so very, very, very angry that words cannot describe how angry I
was.
First some essential background.
I have a qualification in Dream Work and some famous
author (it was a long time ago) dreamt
that she was at dinner and that she
hated with a passion the woman sat opposite to her.
She then realised that the woman was herself and that
this was a dream.
With that realisation she knew that she could not
physically hurt the woman opposite
she proceeded to beat her up reducing that part of herself
to a mangled pulp.
As a counsellor; in ‘real’ life with such passion it may
be suggested that a person take a Stanley knife and slash a photo to pieces as
the person photographed cannot be injured.
As a hypnotherapist I may arrange that the offending
person can be required to sit and listen
while the aggrieved can shout, kick, scream and
physically beat up as much as they wish.
One client used to put offending people through a giant
paper shredded on the beach.
I often wondered how she managed when she met them later
that day in the pub!
The person required to sit and listen, often a parent, is
usually shocked at the hurt
they have inflicted on their loved child and offer an
explanation as to why and they then
beg forgiveness which is generally accepted. ‘Generally’
requires just a little more work.
Forgiveness does not mean condoning the action;
it means you letting go of the effect those actions
previously had on your well being.
Back to my very deep anger.
Now I would deal with such anger in a different way
but all those years ago I used the skills I then had .
I forget my first foray. During my second piece of trance
work (thinking of the picture) I really wanted to slash my former husband with
a large shard of greenish glass. I wanted to cut him to miniscule shreds. But.
My goody two shoes self wouldn’t let me!!!!! This gremlin kept arguing
that he
was the best person he could be. (Thinking of the dream) I thought ‘just
let me get him’!
No! You can’t. You are a nice person, nice people
understand – and all that rubbish!
This argument went on for quite some time.
In the end I contented myself with putting him in a large
skip and burying him with tons
of broken shards of ¼ to ½ inch thick glass. (Warning –
DO NOT mess with mama bear!)
The next time I was simply far too angry to work with
myself; so I took my issue to a fellow hypnotherapist who worked with my
specific type of anger using TFT. This seemed to satisfy me.
However, a few years later I decided to make sure when
working with a pair of Shaman.
Although my former husband had never physically abused me
(in this life) I asked that any issues involving abuse were cleared. I don’t
‘see’ or ‘experience’ much when working with the Shaman,
just enough to be involved with the process. He or was it
she journeyed for me hundreds of years ago to a severely abusive relationship
where I was battered so much that I was unable to have children
(I have three).
The situation was that there was no point in running away as there was no way
to support myself. But my former self had the guts to run away (good girl) but
was unfortunately dragged back. I experienced myself as being dragged back by
my long brown hair
however the Shaman said that it was long and black.
Six months later at the encouragement of our son, my
former husband rang to say that he was sorry.
For myself, I admired his ability to contact me, but for
me there was nothing to forgive.
Below Tony Robins describes how he used his body to
affect his mind.
I don’t imagine that for one second he uses those methods
now
but they make a good and exciting demonstrative story.
When describing the trance state to clients or the
learning state to Inner Mind Reading students
I often use the following examples as these identical states
mean moving from the chatty active state of beta brain wave to the slower
meditative state of alpha brain waves.
This is a process you cycle through many times a day and
is most easily recognised when you drift into sleep and drift into wakefulness.
Or when you are ‘miles away’; totally absorbed in a book, film
or conversation
so that the rest of the world melts away and when you find that you have driven
for miles and cannot remember the last roundabout or
intersection.
In all these states and stages of alpha you have behaved
perfectly safely and in control
because alpha is a perfectly normal brain wave sate for
you to experience.
It is not an on/off switch but more of a balance of degree,
the flow of water through a tap.
The chemicals of your body can be altered in nano seconds
and they obviously affect your emotional ability to the degree of their
alteration.
If you are sitting, look down, put your elbows on your knees and your head in your
hands and let your shoulders slump and in this recognised depressed body posture
science records that your depressed
chemicals flood though your body – fast!
This is an example of the body leading the mind.
Now think of something wonderful, for me it is the
vibrant laughter in my grandchildren’s eyes,
think of something exciting, laughter inducing or whatever
brings joy to your mind.
Your body will raise; your body chemicals will alter in a
split second, your muscle tone
and everything physical and therefore emotional will
change.
HOW TO GET FROM
DOWN TO UP.
A friend hypnotherapist used to complain of a bad back
and stand when speaking with a depressed client as it caused them to look up. Depressed
people look down! So when you find yourself walking along looking at the
pavement absorbed in your unpleasant thoughts simply look up. Observe the
skyline, the tree tops the roof lines; I bet you didn’t realise just how interesting
roof lines can be!
Your mind is now otherwise engaged; your eyes are no
longer downcast but are the opposite
to depressed and over concerned; they are open to more
light – an important consideration.
Whistle. It is physically impossible to be depressed or
unhappy when you whistle. Now you may not be the world’s greatest warbler but
you can whistle inside you mind and if you are like me
it takes quite a bit of concentration and you will end up
laughing inside.
Another body leading the mind strategy is to pretend to
physically belly laugh; that is to exaggerate the movements of laughing like a
clown. Put your fist on your tummy and breathe out loudly ha, ha, while simultaneously
jogging your head and shoulders forward. I clearly remember the first time
I tried this, exactly where I was standing and the thought
of, ‘what if someone was to see me
do such a silly movement’ this caused me to laugh out loud
genuinely. And that simple memory always caused the rush of laughter within my body
– in NLP terms this is known as an anchor
or in hypnotherapy as a trigger – a traffic light is a
trigger as when it flashed red you stop
you don’t think - you simply stop.
Tony Robins describes how he used his body to engage his
mind in a positive, can-do, invincible attitude that was actualised in his
voice, words, posture, demeanour and ultimate success.
Bruce Springsteendescribes
a mind trigger when hesaidthat if he didn’t feel nervous before
a performance he wasn’t ‘pumped’ and he needed that excitement
to perform and to engage
with the excitement from the crowd.
Look at a little child, their bodies brim and bristle
with emotion particularly around the age of 18 months to two when often such
exuberance is socialised out of them.
Think of exercise, dancing, smiling, listening to exciting
music and any other physical activity that lifts your mood and just play it
through in your mind maybe with a JohnCleese Ministry
of Silly Walks background.
Remaining with body triggers (think of a light switch) I always
end a trance session in the same way as this serves two principal purposes.
Firstly the person knows that their body and mind is to return up to the active
waking state and secondly, should they have been consciously or subconsciously
resisting the therapeutic values they have paid for, their mind thinks, ‘OK
that‘s it, time to go home now,’ and they drop their defences and the therapy
work slips in. Magic! During this time I also add some other features
including: “whenever you stop at a traffic light, your shoulders drop a little
and any stresses of the day simply fall away like water off a duck back.” I think
I describe the benefits of this elsewhere. So you can consciously employ these
physical techniques to everyday stressful situations of your own. From DOWN to
UP or UP to DOWN.
HOW TO GET FROM UP
TO DOWN.
Sometimes this is as simple as relaxing your body even if
you have to force your body to relax.
When I start a relaxation process I am often surprised to
find that I am, in fact, holding tension in my muscles.
Hypnotherapists often use body relaxation to help people
enter the trance state of alpha.
The therapist simply starts at the top of the head and
works down the body or starts from the toes and works up describing the state
of relaxation in detail. I don’t generally do this as I find it to be
a waste of time and not particularly interesting. But
when I‘ve experienced this myself
I will be consciously thinking, ‘just a minute my shoulders
have not relaxed and you’re talking about my tummy!’ While I’m busy concentrating
about my shoulders and arguing inside I’m not paying any attention to the rest
of my body which is happily relaxing into trance and eventually there is more
of me relaxed than not and my shoulders eventually give up
and go with the consensus.
However, one girl dramatically jerked back into full alertness
when I reached her tummy
so after discussion I asked her and when we reached her
tummy I asked her tummy if it was OK
for it to stay alert while the rest of her body relaxed and
this worked well.
In everyday situations some people advise you to clench a
muscle and then let it relax however
this can raise your blood pressure while the relaxation above
actually reduces your blood pressure, body temperature and chemical activity.
Employ the opposite of The Ministry of Silly Walks and
behave as if or imagine yourself as if you are the calmest person or animal or
feeling that is possible for you and score yourself and then see if you can become
even calmer.
You may find these to be helpful.
www.ourinnerminds.blogspot.com
www.innermindreading.blogspot.com
Memories
are made up of little moments
26/10/13
My glimpse of death
02/11/13
Magic, chocolate and hypnotherapy
10/11/13
Happy gardens
17/11/13
Analysis
versus feeling
21/11/13
Grounding
by centering in your space
24/11/13
02/12/13
Purpose is the driving force of life
Grow to
accept people
03/12/13
03/12/13
Grow to accept people
04/12/13
Broken spines
07/12/13
Powerful magic of bubbles
11/12/13
Choosing an appropriate book
How do you
decide what is the most important aspect of your concern right now?
The paintings behind are by Jaquie Jones of Newmarket. UK
Problems can flow into and out of your arm.
M'reen Hunt (c)
For readers of my blogs below you will know that I
haven’t had a cold for over 10 years
and that for the first time I recently
stopped a bout of flu.
This morning I sneezed for ages and the familiar nose and
head thing crept up, so instead
of ‘stopping it in its tracks as I don’t need
this’ I decided to do something about the source.
For some of you this will be easy and for others it might
take quite a lot of time
and a few of you will just use a different method
described elsewhere in these pages.
And of course you will use this for your current personal
concern.
I will give you two ways of entering the trance or the
resource state.
This first one is fascinating and you might want to do it
just for fun, but if you do so,
remember to stamp your feet and slap your thighs or generally move
around to bring your mind back
to its chatty beta state and if you physically can’t move
then you know that all you have to do
is think of these things and your mind will perk up.
1} Lay your
non-dominant hand on your lap or a table; this is the one you DON’T write with.
Stare at a spot, ridge or ring on your hand and keep
repeating: “my hand will rise, I won’t stop
my hand from rising and I won’t make my hand rise but my
hand will rise of its own accord.” Occasionally you will blink, but keep
staring and keep repeating. This is not magic, your mind and body is programmed
to respond. This is the crazy bit, as
your eyes become fatigued you hand will morph and change colours and eventually
your hand will rise and stay there until you tell it to fall gently back onto
your lap. As a volunteer with Victim Support I explained this to a person and
his hand immediately started to rise, I ’told him off’ a number of times and as
you can imagine he was very successful with this way of working with his
issues. Once your hand has risen you can then work
with whatever you want; I’ve
not tried but it would be interesting to listen to a language CD
while you’re
in this learning alpha state.
2} For those who do not have breathing problems. Close
your eyes and relax either into what
you recognise as a trance or a meditative
sate.
I teach this to InnerMindReading students to enable them
to enter the learning state.
Put your fist over your heart and close your eyes, breathe
in deeply and expand your chest.
Your spine elongates and your shoulders widen as your
head rises tall and proud with your nose
and chin horizontal to the floor. In your own time, breathe
slowly out allowing your body to curl down somewhat and say (or think) “Relax.”
When breathing in a second time allow your chest to
expand a little making your shoulders rise,
then breathe out gently allowing your lower back to curl
down and in a softer voice say, “Soften”.
On your third breath, only your chest moves before you
breathe out lazily allowing your shoulders
to droop and say, “Flow!
Then you can instruct your non-dominant hand to collect
all the different aspects of your issue
and to rise as it collects more and more of that energy.
My hand rose from the elbow and then my elbow rose and
even my shoulder so that my hand was almost vertical – rather like being in
school which prompted me to think of my flu experiences and expectations of
family and society. All the time I was talking to myself about different flu
physical experiences and sensations, I was talking about my flu feelings and
anything else flu related that came into my mind. None of this was really
necessary, but this was my experience, when I ran out of things to think about
and my arm was still rising I gave things over to my magnificent self that
knows and understands everything about me from a day to day basis to my
spiritual journey.
I asked that all aspects and levels of flu pass into my
arm and that it would rise as it collected these energies. Generally my hand
only rises towards my shoulder but this time when I thought my arm would have
difficulty in rising further I asked that these collective energies would pass
through to the collective unconscious or whoever your God
is to be healed;
for the energy to be broken down to its constituent parts
and to become something useful and beautiful. Just go with whatever comes into
your mind as you cannot possibly make a mistake.
Eventually my arm started to very slowly fall and
eventually, for the first time, it got
completely stuck!
But I get a little ahead of my thought process – I know –
I’m a bit analytical and you should go with
the flow, but then again I tend to
avoid shoulds and musts like the plague as they are often guilt trips imposed
by others. And how am I suppose to understand and report my experience if I
don’t think, thinking is part of who I am, it is how I express my feelings and
‘felt sense’ that is my knowings.
Stuck! How could I possibly be stuck! I’d given
permission to my magnificent self to collect
and release all aspects and variations of my experiences
of flu throughout time.
What else?
Acceptance of course!
There is always the opposite that provides the balance in
life.
I then welcomed abundant and beautiful health into every
cell of my body and other such thoughts and slowly, very, very slowly, as I
(presumably) accepted more inherent health my hand
very gradually returned to
my lap. During this time I was aware not only of feelings of joy but also
of the feelings in my head and fizzyness in my nose and
as I write this there is still a little residue,
but it doesn’t matter as it will go in its own time. Just for this article I checked my inner
beliefs using
a pendulum (a little torch on a wrist string was handy) and these
physical sensations will work their way through my system.
Some months later. After dabbling with repetitive flu as
often happens some years within a community, I have not had any flue like
symptoms. Let’s see what the next flu season has to being.
Like a Humming bird my dragon changes colour with the flash of light.
Dragon Story.
M'reen Hunt (c)
And suddenly, your world is filled with the ominous sight
as the dragon fills the space by the mountainside and you become part of your
bolder, in fact you try to be the bolder as he sweeps down the valley
his wings making deep turbulent whooshing sounds and you notice the branches of
the trees singeing and swaying like seaweed in the strong ocean currents. The petrifying thrill of danger crashes with the cold,
hard feel of your video as your fingers press record, and without seeing, your
eyes skim to check the red recording light, but really all they see is the
rainbow flash as the silver shafts of the dying sun strike the dragon’s
outstretched wings that blaze from blood red crimson to shimmering emerald that instantly merges with deepest
cold cobalt blue. He’s searching, searching, looking and mewing in that
plaintive, bone chilling cry, searching with those far seeing eyes looking for
movement, any movement, feeling the air and a crazy part of you is reading the
headlines, ‘George captures the dragon on video’. No. Concentrate, don’t
breath, and you feel the heat as the grass is withering before his gigantic shadow, and his head is
snaking this way, looking, smelling, sensing, and he passes over your bolder so
close that you can taste his sulphurous breath, the smell of death and suddenly
he alights and folds those dark wings with their cruel barbs, his head is down,
down close to the ground and he is eating, eating some poor defenceless creature, but not
you, not you. And he starts to rise, slowly carrying his prize, and you are
amazed at how the video just seems to follow him of its own accord as you stare
in fatal fascination, your sweat cold, and your heart racing as you adjust the
zoom to the carrion he’s carrying. Still shaking that its not you as you zoom in to that
limp, helpless shape, noticing the drooping wings, the clawed feet and as the dragon
changes direction the sun shimmers crimson and golden on the baby dragon going
home.
Now that story is a load of rubbish, I just made it up
one day, it doesn’t even believe in full stops,
it just flows as ‘and’ follows
‘and’. You know that dragon’s aren’t real, so, just because I asked,
you can go
with the flow of the story without criticising too much. If I’d asked you to face that spider, your
boss, that appointment, your panic then ‘going with the flow’ would be far more
difficult - if not impossible. But was the story such a waste of time? You
found out how far you can go with the flow and if you could feel the heat.
Covertly you found that you are able to protect yourself from danger, that you
can function under stress and that there are recognisable rewards. You may now
be wondering how all that is possible, as you only heard a silly children’s story. The more
primitive subconscious mind works easily with pictures as language is so
ambiguous and belongs to the modern and conscious mind; so your inner mind
heard the metaphor or the moral that was applicable to you. But you may ask, ‘how do you
know that that story was applicable to everyone in the room’? And I might
respond that there are basic emotions and that we all carry an element of fear
that
we’d like to overcome.
Did you hear another sub plot? You may feel that you are being
attacked, maybe from unknown sources and so adopt a defensive posture. When in
actual fact you are creating that attack in your mind, it is your perception of
events because it becomes obvious that the assumed attacker has other
interests. You may not be consciously aware of this interpersonal problem, but
your subconscious mind recognises this and over prints the new story of the
metaphor. In real life, magically ‘the attacker’, the person in question has a
change of attitude and you get along with them in a better way. This has
happened so many times with others and as you will read, it was my change of
attitude – not theirs – that made an iffy relationship great! So the induction
(the going into trance bit of our session), or various parts of the therapy section may deliberately use words or
parts of words, silences or gaps, little stories (metaphors), or rambling
scenarios to speak directly to your subconscious mind that accepts only that
which is appropriate at this time.
I feel that the dragon of ancient mythology or the fear
from childhood contrasts with the cold plastic video of the present or the
reasoning of the adult; this is a rather inelegant attempt at a ‘confusional’,
the words spoken should cause you to concentrate on the details of the information until
you eventually give up and simply go-with-the –flow. Part of you (the analytical
bit) may be thinking that this is a waste of time and your money and while you
are arguing the point in your conscious mind you are allowing your appropriate message
into your subconscious mind.
Right now, try not thinking of an elephant,
how long is it before you can get that elephant out of your mind? Make it a
circus elephant, no, a rampaging wild one. Your subconscious mind is wonderful.
I don’t use this dragon story in therapy, but if I was
sat in your chair, I couldn’t ‘see’ a dragon,
and there is no way in which I
could feel the boulder, smell, taste or hear. I just have to go with
the sense
of the story and that is fine, just go with the flow and it will be OK.
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