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Monday, 31 August 2015

167 Tapping works & How to tap to GET RESULTS

Shop front. Ely UK.


This is really well worth listening to.
Perception produces feelings in the body.
This is an extended explanation of how to tap away problems and get better results.

You can TCR music, poetry or self development material for internal knowing.
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I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Sunday, 30 August 2015

Self Esteem - Self Confidence vs. Authentic Confidence

Rhododendron. 


Colin Hiles [Part 2] Self Esteem - Self Confidence vs. Authentic Confidence
Fear V Love
You can pre-read all your course material for internal knowing.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube  
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

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Perhaps you’d like to check out my sister blogs:
All aspects of regular, each-word reading and education.
Turbo Charged Reading uses these skills significantly faster
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www.happyartaccidents.blogspot.com        just for fun.

To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
                    The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Saturday, 29 August 2015

When Someone You Love Is Having a Tough Time, Remind Them of These 20 Things



When Someone You Love Is Having a Tough Time, Remind Them of These 20 Things
Beth Burgess

If someone you love is having a tough time right now,
there are some things that you can remind them of which will help them trough their difficulties. Whatever you say to someone who is struggling,
the most important thing is to ensure your tone of voice and demeanour is appropriate.
Remind your loved one of the following things in a warm, encouraging way,
and not in a “pull your socks up” way.
Your approach will make all the difference to the response you get.

1. It’s OK Not to Be OK
When people are struggling, they often make themselves feel worse
by placing unrealistic expectations on themselves.
They beat themselves up for having a problem and feeling unable to cope with it.
Remind your loved one that they are no less of a person just because they are facing
something challenging right now. You love them and will support them in good times and bad.

2. You’re Not Alone
Identifying with the person who is struggling can help them feel better.
They realize, then, that they are not bearing the weight of the world alone.
Remind them that others have had this problem, and that they already have found a way through it. Just knowing that they are not alone can help them feel less lonely and more hopeful.
Encourage your loved one to join a support group or forum if appropriate.

3. Let Go of Blame
Sometimes when people are struggling, they either want to blame themselves
or other people for their circumstances. It’s OK to initially express anger and frustration,
but wallowing in feelings of unfairness or blame will make them feel worse and wastes their energy. Help your loved one to see that the way out their difficulties is in looking for solutions
and not in assigning blame or hanging onto angry feelings.

4. Struggles Make You Stronger
Wisdom, strength and resilience can all be built from the foundations of tough times.
Help your loved one to see how they’re growing as a person,
even if they feel like they’re going through hell. It’s so important not to be glib or patronizing
when you’re saying this actually tell your loved one the new strengths you see in them.

5. Take a Step Back
People going through tough times often lose perspective, because they feel so mired
in the problem itself. Reminding someone to step back from the situation
can help them to see things in a fresh light, and will help them find new solutions.

6. Nothing Lasts Forever
The terrible thing about really tough times is that they feel like they will go on forever.
But, in reality, nothing lasts forever not even the most horrible emotions
or the direst circumstances. Reminding your loved one of this can help them
gain perspective and feel comforted at the same time.

7. Take Things Step By Step
Tough times can often bring complex and confusing feelings,
and those who are struggling may feel paralyzed and unable to make decisions.
Remind them that they don’t have to solve the whole problem at once.
If they just do the next right thing, they will start to make progress.

8. Look For The Open Door
When life shuts one door, another one will always open.
Losing something will always lead to new opportunities, but only if you are open to them.
Remind your loved one to stay alert to fresh opportunities and solutions.

9. Just Do Your Best
People who are struggling can put so much pressure on themselves to get things right
that they feel even more upset when they don’t meet their own unrealistic expectations.
Remind them that as long as they just do their best, that’s all that matters.
They are human, after all. Their best is good enough.

10. You’ve Come Through Tough Times Before
If someone you love is having a hard time, it may be difficult for them to see their strengths. Reminding them that they have already survived tough times before
can show them that there is an end in sight, and that they have the strength to reach it.

11. You’re Brave
Most people who are struggling refuse to acknowledge how strong and brave they actually are.
They may see themselves as weak and scared. Remind them that courage is not the absence of fear. It’s the willingness to go on even when you’re afraid.

12. There Is Something Good in Each Day
Going through difficulties can lead to a negative mindset. If someone is really going through
a desperately hard time, and dealing with something like depression, being all happy-clappy
with them won’t work. But do ask them about the good things in their life, what has gone well,
and what they have achieved. It will help them to see a glimmer of hope, even in the darkness.

13. Look at What You’re Gaining
Even when someone has a difficult problem, there will always be an upside to it.
Whether it’s finding out who their true friends are when they’re struggling,
or having the opportunity to develop patience, strength and problem-solving abilities,
 there will always be a silver lining. Help your loved one to find it.

14. It’s Not Your Fault
Sometimes when people are struggling, they take their problems very personally,
almost believing that their difficulties are sent in some way to punish them.
If your loved one is doing this, reminding them that it’s not their fault can help them feel relieved.

15. Well Done
Validating someone for their efforts when they’re having a miserable time can make a big difference in their day. If someone is struggling, they may not acknowledge their own hard work.
Giving them praise can help them feel rewarded and appreciated.

16. Focus on Now
Often people make their tough times even tougher by worrying about the future
or fretting about the past. They may add to their misery by letting themselves think back
to all the times life has treated them badly or that they’ve failed before; or they may fear
that their current difficulty will lead to yet more problems. Remind them to focus on now,
because that’s the only part of the story they can change at the moment.

17. Nothing Is Ever the End of the World
Very few problems, however big or small, can actually stop you from breathing.
You can encourage your loved one by reminding them that everything is survivable and beatable. They will find a way of dealing with this issue, however tough, if only they keep trying.

18. Be Kind To Yourself
When someone is going through a hard time, they may feel so frustrated by their problems
that they resort to beating themselves up or not allowing themselves a minute of reprieve
from the issue. Remind your loved one that tough times are easier when we’re kind to ourselves. They are allowed “time off” from their problem to have a laugh,
treat themselves, and be around good people.
Relieving stress can actually help them to come back to the problem refreshed and recharged.

19. People Want to Help
If your loved one is suffering, they may believe that they have to go through it all by themselves. 
They may not want to burden others with their problems, and won’t want to ask for help.
Remind them that most people are amenable to helping; in fact, helping feels good.
The reason people have different strengths is precisely so that they can help each other.
Encourage your loved one to seek extra help should they need it.

20. I’m There For You
The strength of these words can not be underestimated. Letting your loved one know
that you’re there for them, and that you will listen to their feelings, dry their tears,
or even just be around, can mean everything to someone going through hell.
Just being a non-judgmental, caring presence in your loved one’s life can make a massive difference in how they feel and how they cope.


http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/when-someone-you-love-having-tough-time-remind-them-these-20-things.html

You can TCR software and engineering manuals for spontaneous recall – or pass that exam.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube  
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

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All aspects of regular, each-word reading and education.
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www.happyartaccidents.blogspot.com        just for fun.

To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Friday, 28 August 2015

Self Image - The Amazing, Absolute Key To All Personal Growth

 Herb Robert.


Video Summary:
Self image is a powerful transformative tool if you know how to decipher it.
Our self-image is our mental map of reality about ourselves and our potential in the world.
Every experience we have, whether we remember it or not, impacts our self image.
Some of those experiences have convinced us to accept falsehoods as gospel truths.

While some things that we believe may not be true, they can take on the power of truth
in our subconscious. The problem is identifying which assumptions and beliefs are holding us back from making the changes we want in life. All our beliefs and experiences contribute to our behavior, which is 95% subconscious. That leaves very little behavior subject to conscious control.

Your mind has adopted a set point for every area of your life -- your fitness level, weight, finances, and relationship balance. Your mind has adopted a policy of homeostasis, or maintaining the status quo in each area. Convincing your mind to move the set point even a few ticks in any direction
takes a herculean effort. To make any lasting change in your life, pressing your self image
into service can be a much more powerful technique than using sheer willpower.
A subconscious framework for how you see life and yourself.

You can TCR specialist and language dictionaries that are spontaneously accessed.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube 
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

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Thursday, 27 August 2015

TAT® and John of God

Dandelion and May flowers.



This man is not actually John of God.

You can TCR music, poetry or self development material for internal knowing.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube  
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

Advanced Reading Skills Perhaps you’d like to join my FaceBook group ?

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Turbo Charged Reading uses these skills significantly faster
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www.happyartaccidents.blogspot.com        just for fun.

To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Wednesday, 26 August 2015

Learn These Skills or Live a Mediocre Life Full Seminar. Jim Rohn

Purple vetch and meadow sweet.

Jim Rohn Learn These Skills or Live a Mediocre Life Full Seminar From 1981
Don't let the date put you off.
These points are still being spoken on stage today.



You can TCR specialist and language dictionaries that are spontaneously accessed.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube 
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

Advanced Reading Skills Perhaps you’d like to join my FaceBook group ?

Perhaps you’d like to check out my sister blogs:
All aspects of regular, each-word reading and education.
TurboChargedReading uses these skills significantly faster
www.ourinnerminds.blogspot.com                Personal business development.
www.happyartaccidents.blogspot.com         just for fun.

To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Tuesday, 25 August 2015

Different Ways to Spin Feelings: A Discussion with Rob Voyle

Vetch pods.

I am unable to copy the youtube demonstration. 
You can access 
Resolving Anxiety and Other Strong Feelings with NLP by Steve Andreas
at : https://youtu.be/g9dDsn1Ka9g
I have used this technique successfully.

Different Ways to Spin Feelings: A Discussion with Rob Voyle
Steve Andreas
In response to my last blog post, Rob Voyle sent me an email with great detail about his experience 
in using the Spinning Feelings process that may explain why some people have found closed loops, while others have found spirals. His comments stimulated a number of thoughts and responses
in me, the kind of collegial exploration that I love, and that happens all too seldom in the field.
For readability, I have made this into a dialogue between us,
which Rob has checked over and approved.
Rob: I have been “spinning feelings” since you demonstrated it briefly in Winter Park
some years back (2009). I ask people, “What direction does it travel, where does it begin
and where does it go to.” (What’s its path)? Most people have no trouble with this question.
Steve: Sometimes, as in my example with Joan, it may take some exploration to realize the path
is somewhat different from what they originally noticed.
Rob: When I ask, “What color is it?” many people say “I don’t know,” to which I promptly respond, 
“Close your eyes and take a look. What color is it?” Everyone has been able to report a color.
My tone is quite definite, similar to Andy Austin’s when he gets people to close their eyes
and tell him what they are standing on in a metaphor of movement elicitation.
Steve: You can also use the “As if” frame, “If it had a color, what would it be?”
or simply “Give it a color.”
Rob: Then I ask, “Which way is it spinning — clockwise or anti-clockwise?
Sometimes they will demonstrate it spinning with a finger; other times not. Again if they don’t know, 
I ask them to close their eyes and have a look. I don’t concern myself with whether it is clockwise
or anticlockwise from my or their perspective, it is simply their reference point so they can spin it
in the opposite direction. It may be ambiguous to us but it does not seem ambiguous to the client.
Steve: Good point. I want to know for myself which way,
and occasionally this might be useful to remind a client if they forget.
Rob: Then I tell the client, “Now set all that aside for a moment. When you think of that situation, 
what would you like to be feeling?” (calm, assured, peaceful, confident, etc.)
“Now remember a time when you felt that feeling in the past at some time.”
Steve: This is relying on the client’s conscious mind to choose the desired feeling.
Often it will be fine to do this, but I prefer to just find out what happens spontaneously,
because their conscious mind may make a poor choice guided by beliefs or “shoulds.”
Rob: Then I ask, “And what color is that?” Then I get them to spin the feeling the other direction, 
and allow it to turn from the first color to the second color. I don’t add sparkles.
That takes care of the physiological component of the anxiety, which sometimes is enough.
Steve: I suggest you try adding sparkles; most people love it. In that Winter Park demonstration 
you mentioned, I deliberately left out sparkles, because she described the anxiety feeling
as being like “fireworks” which often includes sparkles, and I didn’t want to say anything
that might describe the problem state. Of course someone could always
have a problematic response to sparkles; hopefully they would express this,
either verbally or nonverbally, so one could adjust.
Rob: My usual approach though is to follow it with, “What do you have to hear to be anxious?” 
which I call a negative mantra that evokes the anxiety.
I resolve it as I would a critical voice, or using a visual version of Nick Kemp’s tempo shift.
With regard to the spinning, after intervening I have asked people more details about the direction 
of the spinning. Some report that the feeling was corkscrewing along the path,
others that it is a loop, as Bandler suggests. It doesn’t seem to matter how the spinning is occurring. 
It is enough that they know and they can spin it the other way.
I’ve found that trying to determine all that during the session just creates confusion and is irrelevant, 
I just need to know that the client knows their experience.
Steve: Interesting. Again, I like to know which it is out of my own curiosity —
and haven’t found it creates confusion. But I have been assuming that it corkscrews along the path. 
I’ll try your way and see what I find.
When my client in the video is talking about what she says to herself, over and over again,
she rotates her hands in a vertical closed loop in front of her at 3:57. So it may be that clients represent the spinning of the words in a closed loop, but the spinning of the feeling in response to the words spirals along a path that isn’t a closed loop. If this is so, it might resolve the apparent discrepancy between different reports that I pointed out in my previous post.
Rob: My own reflection on why it works is that many people, when anxious,
report they are “spinning out of control” or some other description that includes spinning.
People who are in a panic will often flap their hands (“in a bit of a flap”) and their hands flap
in a slight circle. As an experiment in a couple of cases I have asked someone to “flap anxiously,” watch what direction their hands were flapping, and then ask them to flap them
in the other direction. Instantly the anxiety feeling dissipates.
So if your world is spinning out of control just spin it the other way.
Steve: Interesting. Again this may be the spinning of the words they are saying to themselves,
in contrast to the path of the resulting feeling — something to explore further.
Rob: I have found that spinning the feeling and resolving the negative mantra
has been highly effective in treating most anxieties and phobias, especially when the client
has no awareness of a precipitating event for such anxiety or phobias.
Steve: I think there is probably seldom a precipitating event in anxiety;
that it is a cumulative generalization based on repeatedly hearing parents or other adults
saying things like, “Watch out!” in a high pitched, rapid “urgent” voice in contexts of danger.
The urgent tonality is something that is learned unconsciously,
and tends to remain unconscious unless attended to.
Rob: When the person does report a precipitating event such as an auto accident etc.
I will use the movie theater phobia cure to deal with that specific event.
Steve: Sounds good; that is probably actually a separate process,
but easy for a client to confuse with anxiety.
Rob: I don’t use any formal hypnosis in any of the steps. I used to add a brief relaxation exercise
that had elements of trance when resolving the negative mantra,
to create a relaxed state, but found I don’t need to do that.
With regard to spinning a feeling, the best experience was just after I had seen you demonstrate it.
I was conducting a coach training and was waiting with a couple of participants
for the rest of the group to return from an exercise. 
I took just a couple of minutes to demonstrate and have them experience spinning an anxious feeling,
and then the rest of the group arrived and we went on to other things.
One of the people who had done the brief exercise had to have an MRI several months later
and he realized as he was being prepped to go into the tunnel that he was claustrophobic
and began to get quite anxious, at which point he remembered 
what he had done in the exercise and spun his anxiety in the opposite direction;
the anxiety disappeared and he was able to comfortably have the MRI.
Steve: Others have reported successfully using the spinning feelings process
for something that we would usually classify as a phobia.
Again this would be something to explore further, to find out if spinning feelings is a valid alternative method for a phobia, or if some apparent phobias actually have the structure of anxiety.

http://realpeoplepress.com/blog/different-ways-to-spin-feelings-a-discussion-with-rob-voyle

You can TCR software and engineering manuals for spontaneous recall – or pass that exam.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube  
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

Advanced Reading Skills Perhaps you’d like to join my FaceBook group ?

Perhaps you’d like to check out my sister blogs:
All aspects of regular, each-word reading and education.
Turbo Charged Reading uses these skills significantly faster
www.ourinnerminds.blogspot.com               Personal business development.
www.happyartaccidents.blogspot.com        just for fun.

To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”