Dreaming clouds.
4 Personally Proven
Steps To Become A Calmer Person
I love weekends. Why? I can wake up and just spend
a few minutes lying awake
without the need to do anything. No need to rush to work,
or to speak to anyone.
Just lying there with eyes wide open and nothing in mind.
I realized then that those are some of the calmest moment
in my life.
It has always been a personal mission for me to be calm
in everything I do. I believe it will allow us
to make better decisions, to be more focused and
ultimately to live a stress-free life.
Here’s what I’ve done so far that has actually worked:
1) Forget Things You Can’t Fix Now
I work as an engineer in a mill. And being an old mill,
there are a lot of problems need to be solved. Some of them are quite critical
and challenging, and I often cannot stop thinking about them
even at home. This is not good, as I don’t want to bring
work back home.
So I established the rule that anything I can’t fix now, I
will forget about it until tomorrow.
What’s the point of thinking about a machine that is in
the mill when you are at home?
My family deserves better attention from me. Some will
say that by thinking about the problem
at home, I may stumble upon the solution and it will make
work tomorrow so much easier.
Personally, I think nothing is worth sacrificing
your family time.
The machine will still be there even after 10 years, but
can I say the same about family members.
The children will grow up fast before my eyes
and there’s nothing I can do to gain back the time I
missed.
2) Live In the Now
This is by far one of the most important technique to
achieve Zen Master-like calmness.
A clear example of how to apply this is just like when I
woke up last weekend.
I don’t need to think about anything else besides
enjoying my lying awake in bed.
The same goes for everything else you do.
If you are typing your next blog post, stop Digging /
Stumbling interesting articles.
You can do this later when you have the time. For some,
this may look like a waste of time,
since we can do so much with our multitasking-capable
minds.
I agree, but we have to retrain our mind sometimes to just focus on one thing. Nothing
else.
Believe me, miraculous things
can and will happen when you focus.
Once you started doing this, you will become more focus
in everything you do.
After a while, you will see that you are no longer
worrying about what future will hold for you.
As long as you stick to your plan, you will be doing
great. You do have a plan, don’t you?
3) Learn To Let Go
Not all problems in your life
need to be fixed. Some
are meant for someone else,
like curing cancer and so on. Others are not meant to be
solved at all.
An example is the boss who bullies. You do what you can
to fix this.
You send letters to the top management, even to the
Labour Department,
but still he doesn’t change. All you can do is to let it
go.
Either quit your job or just bear it all. Either way he
will still be the bully he is.
In the end, you can’t have everything. So let it go, stop
trying to fix it.
Minimize the damage and go on
with your life. A
rock falling will hurt you less if you catch it
with your hand moving down. It will hurt more if you
catch it with your hand moving up.
4) Set A Limit Switch To All The Three Techniques
This is the most important techniques of all three.
Take a piece of paper and a pen and write the three
techniques down.
Then write down, what are the cases when the three
techniques are no longer valid.
For example, technique number 1 states that you must
forget things you can’t fix now.
Set up a few cases that will void this technique.
Maybe if the problem may make you lose your job if not
handled promptly.
Or if it is a family problem.
Write them all down for your reference and repeat for all
the remaining two techniques.
Being calm is important. But not to the extent of losing
your job, or your family.
Certain things require urgency and that is why we need
these guidelines to refer to.
Being calm doesn’t mean you
have to slow down your life.
You still can be aggressively active in your life, rush
to work, meet tight deadlines, etc.
But if you keep all four techniques in mind,
you will remain calm even though the whole world is in
chaos.
http://www.lifehack.org/articles/management/4-personally-proven-steps-to-become-a-calmer-person.html
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