A blind barrow.
10 Things Your Older Sister Never Told
You
BY Ivan Dimitrijevic
When you are the younger child in a family you have to
listen not only to your parents,
but to older siblings as well. A younger sister will
often complain about being treated like a baby,
or being bossed around by her much older sister when they
were younger,
but it’s not all sunshine and rainbows for big sis
either.
There are a bunch of things that your older sister never
really complained about or feel the need
to tell you about, knowing that you will come to
understand such things when you get older.
1. She spent years as a single child and lived under stricter rules
When your parents had her they didn’t really know what
they were doing
and they felt
incredibly protective, so your sister ended up living under very strict rules.
By the time you came along, they had already learned to
be a bit more lenient. Your sister essentially paved the way for you, and there
were times when she wished you appreciated that fact a bit more.
2. She was put up to higher standards because she was the older one
Not only did she have to take the full brunt of your
parents’ attention before you came along,
but she was actually held accountable later on, because
she was the older one
who needs to know better. (M’reen. Oh boy! Do I remember
than one.) She’d take a bullet for you from time to time, and while it was
frustrating it helped her become a more mature
and responsible person, and having a successful older
sibling can be beneficial for you
as well.
3. More often than not, she’d find herself trying to be a good role
model
Since your older sister was forced to act a lot more
mature than other kids her age,
she’d end up thinking about her choices and actions,
because she knew full well
that you looked up to her. Although she might have wanted
to be a bit irresponsible and have fun,
at times she had to use self-control and try to set a
good example.
4. She made things easier for you by giving you her hard-earned bits
of wisdom
When she went through rough times, got in fights with mom
and dad, had trouble in school –
she had to figure it all out for herself. She
had to take a few hard falls in order to get back up stronger, but she was more
than happy to give you all the little tips, tricks and gems of wisdom
that she learned the hard way. The advice might have
seemed as nagging at times,
but she just didn’t want you to go through all the
troubled that she did.
5. She knew you’d have to make some of the same mistakes,
but couldn’t talk you out of it
While she did her best to give you some pointers and
guidelines, some things you just have to experience for yourself to truly
appreciate. There were times when she watched you make mistakes, and she knew
that you wouldn’t listen, but she was still there to comfort you afterwards.
6. She also gave your parents tips and helped them deal with you
Of course, it is inevitable to have a few stern talks
with your parents and get punished,
but what you didn’t appreciate when you were younger was
the fact that your older sister
gave parents some insight into how you felt and helped
them find the best way to approach you
in that situation. She took up the role of mediator when
it was necessary, and even sided with you when you were clearly in the wrong.
7. It both excited and frightened her when you became old enough to
start dating
When you have a much older sister you are always the baby
in the family, but as you grow older there comes a point where you can speak to
each other as friends as well. It’s usually about the time you start dating.
She gives you tips on how to deal with the confusing mess that is the teenage
girl’s psyche, and you can also learn some useful tips on makeup and what to
expect from boys.
Talking with your parents about sex is a weird
experience, but your older sister can provide
some much-needed guidance without you feel too
uncomfortable.
On one hand your sister was glad that she will be able to
share such things with you,
but on the other hand she was worried that you might get
your heart broken.
8. When she critiqued you or teased you, it was so that you would
become a better person
Sometimes your older sister would seem mean, like she
didn’t care about your problems
or like she just wanted to tease you for the fun of it.
However, a lot of the time it was used
as a means of motivating you to do better or to toughen
up – wanting to prove someone wrong
or “show them” is the best source of motivation. If
things go a little too far, it’s easy to make
a sincere apology and
make up, so this tough love tends to become a common strategy.
9. She had to act as teacher, caretaker and bodyguard,
and she didn’t always know what she was doing
An older sister will stand up for you, help you out with
bullies, feed you, help you out
with homework and teach you valuable skills. The thing
is, she didn’t receive any formal training
and she didn’t really know what she was doing a lot of
the time. However, that didn’t stop her
from trying her best to keep you safe and help you out
with anything you needed. An older sister’s boyfriend is also a great influence
and can have “the talk” with your new boyfriend.
10. She knew that she’d be the first one you call in an emergency
and was ready for anything
An older sister has to be ready for literally anything.
Driving you home wasted from a party,
helping you sober up and cleaning up the mess so the
parents don’t find out? Check.
Taking you shopping? Check. Borrowing you cash so you can
go to a concert you’ve been waiting for? Check. Your sister used to get into
all kinds of trouble herself and understand that
she has to be ready to help you out with similar
problems, and perhaps even some unique ones
that she never came across. It’s not a big surprise to
her when you come to her in a panic,
but she will make sure that you know how big of a favor
she is doing for you.
These are just some of the things that a much older
sister went through, but never really wanted
to mention. At the end of the day, she loves you like no
one else in the whole world,
and while she did help make you into the person you are
today, she is aware that you, in turn,
had a big positive effect on her life as well.
http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-things-your-older-sister-never-told-you.html
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