The Saying goodbye exercise.

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THE  SAYING  GOODBYE  NOW  EXERCISE.

This is great in the aftermath or when faced with an argument, the loss of a job or person

or those many occasions when your find something to say after the event.

 I felt that this naturally follows How To Say What You Need To Say and

Words That Can Get You Into And Out Of Trouble.

This is also for people who are no longer in your life, through death or distance or estrangement,

or maybe even yourself at a different time of your personality or health

There is also your own (sudden) death to consider. It is best to be in a serene frame of mind 
at your death. Undelivered communication, especially of love, is a major worry for many people, 
especially when brought up sharp by the sudden death of another.

This exercise is very effective and may (in my experience) take ten minutes or even fifty minutes.

In this exercise, you may express to the Universe or to yourself, your thoughts and emotions concerning your loved ones, so that you know that on a spiritual plain a record exists.

If the spiritual aspect is not of importance to you, you will still find this exercise to be 
very calming, relieving and healing.

Work in pairs {on the telephone}  (or by yourself or your reflection in the mirror or to a picture

of the person or while staring into a candle flame as you express your thoughts and feelings).

If you are working with another person and choose to respond silently, you will need to agree 
a verbal or hand signal when you are ready for the next statement. Or the other person will need 
to divide the time up in some way and ask you if you are ready for the next statement.

It is important that you allow yourself plenty of time. The grieving person may need some private time after this session before they are ready to drive a car, or they may need to chat about 
inconsequential things while their mind is elsewhere.

(If you are working with more than one deceased person,

it is important to give your co-worker a list of their first names.)

The co-worker reads the following italics including the four statements.

The only response the co-worker gives when you have finished with each statement –

Is: Thank-you, fine, good, all right or OK.

NOTHING MORE!  This is not a therapy session; the co-worker is a facilitator only.

This is the pre-explanation from the co-worker to the client.

I shall simply ask you to close your eyes and tell the Universe and {name of person} 
(or each of those named persons in turn) – through me – the things you appreciate about them,

 anything you regret having said or done, how you feel about the person, and what you would want them to know. Express those feelings in the most honest and heartfelt way.

 Take your time, speak freely, and allow any emotions to surface.

You may think any really private messages for that person.

Before you (the name of the person you are working with) please tell {the name of the receiver}

and the Universe, through me(the co-worker):

- the things you have appreciated about him/her…   You then say or think what you need…

- anything you regret having said or done………     You then say or think what you need………

- how you feel about him/her…………………    You then say or think what you need………….

- what you want him/her to know………………  You then say or think what you need………

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The following exercise is for people in some sort of relationship. So that should the unimaginable happen and a parting is made without the opportunity for a final goodbye, the things we would wish have to have said, in fact, have been said at some point. This exercise allows the freedom to exchange love without rejection or censure,  in doing so it may generate feelings of deep love – and also fear, because of the context of the exercise- that is, the possibility of the death of the partner or indeed yourself. You may speak directly to the person or to their picture or to a candle flame.

THE BEFORE YOU DIE EXERCISE

1.       Before you die, I want to tell you .................      

2.       Before you die, I want you to be certain that ..............

3.       Before you die, I want you to know ............

THE ACKNOWLEDGEMENT EXERCISE

¨       I (like/appreciate/love) the way you .............

¨       I (like/appreciate/love) it when you  .............

¨       I (like/appreciate/love) you because  .............              

Perhaps you’d like to check out my sister blogs:

www.ourmindminds.blogspot.com               this takes advantage of the experience and expertise of others. 

www.turbochargedreading.blogspot.com      describes the steps to reading in the way your mind prefers.

www.happyartaccidents.blogspot.com         just for fun.

www.turbochargedreading.com                   for your advanced reading techniques

To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.

The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”