The final questions as to why I am not succeeding.

Photo of a Gargrave bridge taken by M'reen

There are many directions that can be taken

each holding hidden possibilities

that may be seen as difficult

to a future that cannot be seen.

The final questions as to why I am not succeeding.

Written by M’reen

If, like me, you occasionally work on the things that are holding you back in your life

you may find that, with the best will in the world you are not making progress.

For over a year now  !X!!!:(!!*

1.       I have checked my belief is in accordance with the positively worded statements 

        that I have created in the present tense.

a) That means I have not used negatives such as, ‘I do not ……’ because the subconscious mind,    

     somehow or other, doesn't ‘hear’ the ‘not’ and acts on the ‘I do …’

Sometimes it is difficult to create a positive statement as you are so concerned with not having 

that undesirable consequence. I have found that if you put the second half of your statement first then the statement becomes positive.

E.G. ‘I will never smoke cigarettes again’, becomes, ‘smoking cigarettes is now part of my past’.

Making your statement part of your present is important.

b) Also don’t use  ‘ing’ as your subconscious mind always takes the easy way out. 

Therefore, ‘ I am going to sleep’ is understood as ‘sometime in the future is OK’.

Try, ‘I relax into sleep’ as relaxing into sleep is more believable than, 'going to sleep' 

when you are experiencing difficulty in dropping off.

2.       I have checked that there are no influences outside of myself that are influencing me.

  Interesting questions are: Are ……. protecting me from …..?

                                           Are  ----- supportive of ……?

These could be :

a)        : ancestors

               : the family I come from (my birth/growing up family/s),

               : the family I belong to or have belonged to

               : my group, society or culture both past and present

               : any earthbound energy. There were two energies to be released.

                They may be my excuse or they may have tuned into my need not to succeed

                and kindly popped in to support my inner beliefs.

b)     Throughout time, space and dimension Emotions such as:

 Confidence

 Success or failure

 Procrastination
 Perfectionism 

 Worthiness  

 Role models / advertising

 Authority figures / parents / teachers /religion

 Gender expectations both your and those of the above

 Good and bad experiences and expectations

 Habit

 Etc.

c)       I accept all the statements above as a natural part of who I am,
  both now and in my future.

Checking, I confirmed that:

Yes, I do believe all these statements.

Yes, I can achieve all these aims.

Unfortunately I just wasn’t!

And the final question was …….

Do I actually want this success?

And the answer was > No!

However I could find or think of no reason as to why!

Therefore I need to work content free

this means I have no need to consciously know the reasons

just accept the obvious evidence and work on removing, neutralising

or changing the energy of these blocks into something neutral or positive.

In order to do this I hand the problem over to:

x) My higher self and this is a combination of

     my everyday requirements in life

     and the overview of my spiritual wisdom.

y) A higher power.

z) A therapy that is available to me or engage a therapist.

I then work on this realisation in a way in which I feel is appropriate for myself.

Checking:

Do I actually want this success? – Yes

Am I prepared to do what is necessary to succeed? – Yes

Am I prepared to do this consistently? – No!   Oops.

Will I continue to find excuses? – Yes

Do I have the ability to overcome these excuses? – Yes.

Do these excuses serve a purpose? –Yes

Do they serve a worthwhile purpose? -No.

I release all the excuses and reasons that are hindering my progress in learning ………

so that I can actively work on this on a week day basis.

Do I believe this statement? – No

Can I achieve this statement? – Yes 

Will I achieve this statement?  - Yes

Will I spent sufficient time each day; will I spend that time and produce actual results? – Yes

By this I mean learning the skills to actively ……., within the next six weeks. - Yes

Happy Christmas to us all. xxx

Phew J J J J J J

Keep you posted.

M'reen
February 4th 2015 - I'm experiencing success :)
And another, when the this question was posed, suddenly realised why she was not having success.

Will Smith V Tony Robbins

Tony Robbins is the greatest - Yes? 

For me. No.

I get  a little dismissive of people who lecture me about all these wonderful things I 'should' do 

but don't give me the means to do it.

I generally avoid 'shoulds', 'musts', 'have to's' and 'need to's' like the plague

as they tend to be guilt trips imposed by others.

As a therapist I value and respect the  beliefs that cause our emotions that cause our thoughts.

Therefore, in my opinion, it is more productive to work on your beliefs

and, I don't know about you but I generally need some help with my beliefs 

that are tucked away in my subconscious mind.

Will Smith speaks eloquently about his beliefs
and how he has brought to fruition the seeds his family planted in his upbringing.
To me he shows that we have to build our lives 'one brick at a time' and that this is a constant evolution.
If you do not have that brick then it is OK to ask someone to help you find or create it.
'This is where skill comes in to play.' We can learn these therapeutic skills in order to deal with unhelpful thoughts or we can work with the energy that caused the underlying belief; that is the initial event.

Your words and thoughts have physical power.

In life many people wonder why things don't always go the way 
they want them to but do not realize that in every thought they 
think and words they speak starts the physical formation
of what begins to appears in our lives. It is normal to have negative 
thoughts from time to time because we do not live in a perfect world,
Or Do We? The key is when a thought like that shows 
up you just need to make the decision whether or not you want to 
entertain that though for a long time or if you want to change the path 
to a better one immediately. This is where skill comes in to play.
With all things you must practice to make perfect, all though some 
are borne with more talent than other, anyone can hone the skills of 
being discipline and beat their fears into submission. 
it was once said "your biggest fear should be fear itself" I would have 
to say this is pretty right on. Why? Because fear is a negative emotion 
and because of fear you tend to pay more attention
to it which starts the physical birth of some kind of reaction. 
This is why most people that fear that they are going to get hurt get 
hurt more than the rest. Or think they are going to be sick and 
then it happens. If you fear that you don’t have enough money to 
pay the bills and speak and think these thoughts and words everyday
then guess what, You are creating the physical reaction to
show up in your life. This is why it is good to marinate yourself in 
unconditional love and positive good words and belief that good things are 
heading your way at all times. You deserve it, It is your birth right.
Own it. except it. enjoy it. Live it. know it is in your escrow. more and more, every 
moment. and when the other thoughts of fear come, Do Not Entertain
it. leave it behind and get right back on track with the truth!
Live every moment of this life like there is no tomorrow, because it is 
not a rehearsal. So Start getting from it what is yours. GREATNESS!!!