William F McLaughlin
How To Think With Clarity and
Power
Whether or not your life works
depends on how clearly you see things and that depends
on how relaxed and centered you are.
When relaxed, you know what you're doing, and only do
what you know. Things then fall
into place without stress or strain, and goals are achieved as a matter of
course. But when you're disturbed or excited about something painful or
pleasurable,
the opposite happens: you lose your objectivity and think you know
what you're doing
rather than know you know. Things
then become an effort and a struggle. They don't click
as thought or planned, and you
experience disappointment or failure as a result.
The distinction between knowing
what you're doing and thinking you know is subtle,
but makes the difference between
frustration and success in all you do.
Let's look at how excitement or
disturbance not only affects your ability to see clearly,
but also how it sets off a chain
reaction process by which the problem is perpetuated indefinitely -
and without
your even being aware of it.
Have you ever been so sure of
something only to find you were totally wrong about it?
Wasn't it bewildering? Maybe it
was a school, work or business decision, or the choosing
of an investment or marriage
partner. You considered everything so carefully,
had no doubt it was right, that
it'd work - then it crashed and you wondered what went wrong.
This is what happened: Instead of
basing your decision on matters relating to the issue itself,
you got emotionally involved in
it. Such involvement affected your ability to remain impartial. Instead of
seeing all sides of the situation indifferently in order to make the right
decision,
you influenced it - took it
personally instead of objectively or neutrally. Your personal (emotional)
involvement contaminated the decision-making process. The decision wasn't based
on fact,
but on the influential sway of
your own personally-biased opinion. You colored the decision, interfered with
it, unconsciously manipulated it to coincide with how you believed or
"thought"
it should, would or could be. This
biased decision caused the outcome to be inevitably different than the way you
envisioned it - different meaning negative and negative meaning stress.
The negative outcome is
perpetuated when you carry over residual stress from past situations
into the
present one, insuring it too will result negatively. On a short-term basis,
it's like being upset over a flat tire and reacting by kicking it and stubbing
your toe. Then in angry reaction,
you punch the fender and fracture
your hand; and in reaction to that, you yell obscenities, are arrested for
disorderly conduct, put in a straight jacket, and placed under psychiatric
observation.
More commonly, it's like being
resentful over a bad golf stroke, then carrying that resentment
to negatively affect the next
stroke, then the next, until your whole game is off - which would throw your
whole day off. And if you carry this cause and effect cycle to its logical
conclusion,
your whole week would be off, your whole month, and whole life
would be off.
Other examples would be fear of
dogs because of being bitten as a child, fear of starting
a new business venture because of
a past failure, fear of closeness or openness in a relationship because of a
past hurt, and so on.
Thus are you involved in an
unconscious (hypnotic) chain reaction process where stress causes you to not
see clearly what you're doing; not seeing clearly brings about a negative
outcome,
and the negative outcome causes
stress which causes you to not to see clearly what you're doing all over again.
In a circle or cycle there's no
difference between the beginning and the end - they're the same point. Whenever
you enter the moment stressfully, you set events into motion which brings
stress in the end. If you're in error going in, you'll be disappointed coming
out.
What goes, comes; what gives,
gets. The end is always a mirror reflection of the beginning.
The state of mind you're in now is
the one you'll return to when all is said and done. Your future
is nothing more than a projection
of your present state of mind - plus a few more gray hairs.
The remedy becomes this: Change
the beginning. Change the present. Enter each moment calmly neutral instead of
tensely personal regardless of what happened a second ago or a year ago.
It's simply a process of changing
your attitude, the way you habitually look at things:
It's not raining on you
personally, it's just raining; that clerk is not insensitive toward you,
personally, he just happens to be insensitive, and you just happen to be
convenient.
And that half glass of water isn't
half empty or half full; it's just a half glass of water.
The personal view is an opinion;
the objective, centered view is a fact. Intelligence is not
what you think; it's the
matter-of-fact way you look at things. It is this centered, unaffected
viewpoint that allows you to see the situation you're in with such
extraordinary clarity that fear, conflict, and error are naturally eliminated,
and all of your actions and responses become perfectly appropriate, effective,
and effortless. It's amazing!
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