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Monday, 8 September 2014
Does my bum look big in this?
The subconscious ‘but’ has
been mentioned. I thought the following might be helpful.
M’reen: You may have noticed that I have used ‘but’
twice (in the article).
Before each ‘but’ there was a positive point and
the ‘but’ killed that point dead.
So, as one client observed, “yes that dress looks
nice but your bum looks big” is
guaranteed to get him
into trouble. BUT, if he said, “that dress looks nice
even though your bum is big” he can live to see another day. So, avoid ‘but’
like the plague and try changing the sequence of the comment:
‘Even though your bum is big you look nice in
“I’ll respect that you don’t want to but
I won’t respect that you can’t.”
“I won’t respect that you can’t but I’ll respect that you don’t want to.”
Which feels best to you if it was a comment on your statement?
Having seen a post mentioning
the subconscious 'but' I thought I'd post this - it's nothing very clever but
if you've not seen it before it can make a huge difference to your life.
It's good for clients, too. Look at this:
"I need to earn more BUT I'm not sure how I could ever do that..."
and compare it with this:
"I'm not sure how I'm going to do it BUT I'm going to earn more..."
BUT is the mind's eraser. It
erases everything that went before it...
so you might as well put the negative part before the BUT
and make sure that the last
thing your mind accesses in the statement is what you WILL do,
rather than why
Think of it as 'but reversal'
and it helps it stay in your mind.
On a similar subject, if you
link "should" or "shouldn't" with 'and' instead of 'but',
you can easily make positive
changes in your life.
"I know I should get
more exercise BUT I really don't have time..." lets you completely off the hook
(been there, done
Whereas: "I know I
should get more exercise AND..." doesn't easily allow you to negate
the intent of what you've
'BUT' is a very powerful word
it can help or hinder your progress in life
and do either just as
Apologies if you're now
thinking "Well, why on Earth did he post that? I already knew that!"
it's just that I know a lot of people forget it and it REALLY helped me to
achieve the success
that I have managed over the last few years. Terence
I've used the 'yes...but' and
the 'yes ...and' as part of training that I run with teachers.
use it to show how the BUT simply closes the door to communication and the
AND can open it.
Its quite fun to see a room
of people going through the YES ..AND after a YES >>BUT
and hearing the
laughter and excitement that can be generated.
I have been getting clients
to reframe in this way for some time now as a piece of homework,
surprising how much habit resistance there is at the outset but at the end of a
they really can make changes without tears.
I tend to avoid shoulds and musts like the plague
as they tend to be guilt trips imposed by others.
Ask yourself, ‘what will happen if I don’t?’
Unfortunately I don’t have the author of the above
so if you recognise this piece
please give me their name so that this piece can be