Negative Thoughts - The Origin Of Negative Thinking & How To Eliminate It Forever

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Video Summary:
Hey, this is Leo for Actualized.org. Let's talk about negative thoughts.
In this quick self-help segment, I am going to cover negative thoughts, what they are,
set your expectations for how they work, and give you some techniques that you can use
to cope with them, deal with them, and eliminate them.

Automatic Negative Thoughts

So, starting with negative thoughts or, as many of us call them, "automatic thoughts" -- because that's what they are -- what we don't realize is how many of these thoughts we're actually having and how unconsciously, spontaneously, and automatically we're having them throughout our days.
Whether it's a negative thought about your girlfriend or boyfriend, a negative thought about
what somebody did to you while you were driving to work, or a negative thought about
having to go to the gym, or a negative thought about what's going to be happening to you
next month when you can't pay the bills, your mind is really good at taking your greatest fears
and projecting them and catastrophizing them. It just creates the worst possible case scenarios
and then puts them right before your eyes and flashes them right before you.
So, no matter what your greatest fears are in life,
the chances are that you're having a lot of negative thoughts around that fear.
Your Greatest Fear
I do tend to find that it's one or two main fears.
This is probably something like an issue that crept up and kind of stuck with you from childhood
or early adulthood. These things tend to be centered around, for example, the fear of failure.
Maybe you have a fear of winding up poor and homeless. Maybe you have a fear of
not winding up in a good relationship and being lonely and dying miserable and unloved.
Maybe you have a fear of really getting rejected by somebody if you put yourself out there,
whether it's in a relationship or a business context. Maybe you have a fear of failure
in going and trying some sort of goal and then not succeeding at it

and having everybody point fingers at you and say, "Well, we told you so. We told you that
you couldn't do that." So, you have a fear of failure of that kind of embarrassment or humiliation.
There are many different types of core or fundamental fears, but whatever yours is,
it's going to be like a filter that you look and filter your whole day through.
This will tend to happen again and again and again. So, one first step to starting to eliminate negative thoughts is to become very conscious. Become very aware of when
you are having negative thoughts and what is the topic that its revolving around.
I guarantee to you that you'll be shocked if you have not done this exercise.

Increase Your Awareness
Spend the next three days just being very aware of what it is that you're thinking. What you might want to do, practically, is just randomly stop for five minutes three times a day and ask yourself, "What am I feeling right now and what am I thinking?" What you'll notice is
that if you're feeling negatively or if you're feeling anxious or stressed or worried or overwhelmed, there's an associated thought with that and that thought is going to be some sort
of negative automatic thought that you might not have even realized that you were having.
It might be something like, "Well, I'm feeling overwhelmed right now and the reason I'm feeling
that way is because I'm thinking that I have a hundred things that I need to do before the end
of the week and if I don't do that, then something bad will happen." That's usually where
your subconscious mind will fill in that blank with your worst imaginable fear. You might think, "Well, if I don't get all this stuff done this week, then I might get fired and I might not be able to pay my mortgage and then the bank will repossess my house and then I'll wind up on the street
and I'll never be able to recover from that and I'll be homeless and poor for the rest of my life."
So, maybe that's what your brain is projecting into your mind.
Or maybe it's something like, "Well, if I don't get all of this stuff done, then my spouse
or my boyfriend or my girlfriend will think less of me and they won't love me anymore.
Maybe they'll leave me and I'll not ever be able to replace them and get into a good relationship.
So, I'll wind up alone and miserable and nobody will ever want me because I'm unlovable
and not successful in their eyes." So, maybe it's something like that.

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Changing Troublesome Self-Talk

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Changing Troublesome Self-Talk

Steve Andreas

In the 2 ½ minute video clip* below, you can view an example of a very elegant and rapid method for transforming a troublesome response to an inner voice, developed by Mel Davis in the UK.

The woman in this video had intense anxiety in a variety of situations in which

she said to herself internally, “I can’t do it.” I think you’ll find this rapid change method unique.

Notice that although she is very aware of her feeling shifts,

she has no conscious perception or understanding of how they were elicited.

Since most problems are caused by unconscious processing, effective change work

must involve changes in the unconscious aspects of our experiencing.

Despite this, a great deal of “talk therapy” is directed at developing “insight”

or other conscious understandings.

In the video clip I first set the frame that all parts or aspects of ourselves have a positive intent, 

and then offer her a series of instructions—some verbal, and some nonverbal—

directed at changing nonverbal aspects of her experience of the sentence.

Writing what she says to herself on the flip chart transfers the auditory dialogue

into a visual experience of the words, which tends to remove the nonverbal tonality.

Changing “can’t” into “can not” changes a constricting modal operator of impossibility

into one of possibility and choice—she can always choose to not do it.

I also write her sentence in a way that punctuates it differently, separating it into three pieces:

“I can,” “not,” and “do it.”

Finally, I change the tonality of the first piece into a confident statement,

the second piece into a rhetorical question, and the third into a command.

All these interventions change nonverbal aspects of her sentence 

in order to elicit changes in her feeling response to it.

In contrast, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which is widely considered the treatment

of choice when working with internal dialogue—especially with anxiety or depression—

is entirely directed toward the words of an internal voice.

CBT identifies and verbally challenges cognitive distortions, such as overgeneralization

(“always,” “never”), “shoulds” (modal operators of necessity), either/or polarized thinking, 

jumping to conclusions, etc. (here’s a more complete list).

CBT has the most research supporting its effectiveness—though that is in the context

of multiple sessions, usually ten or more. Some of its most well-known proponents 

are Aaron Beck, his daughter Judith Beck, and David Burns.

However, the words that someone says to themselves are usually much less

emotionally troublesome than the nonverbal elements of how the words are spoken—

the tempo, pitch, intonation, accent, pauses, etc. that occur with the spoken word.

A familiar example is that in English a question is indicated by a rising tonality

at the end of the sentence, a command has a sinking tonality at the end,

and a statement does not shift at the end. 

If you ask a question with a sinking pitch at the end, it will be responded to as a command. 

If you make a statement with a rising pitch at the end it will be responded to as a question.

Notice how you feel in response to hearing a hard, screeching, high-pitched voice saying

the words, “I love you.” Or try hearing a soft, deep, slow, “smiling” voice saying,

“You son of a bitch.” 

Most people will respond much more strongly to the nonverbal qualities than to the words.

Another example of the importance of the nonverbal is that a fast tempo indicates urgency,

while a slow tempo indicates the opposite. This is the basis for Nick Kemp’s method

for changing the anxiety created by an internal voice with a fast tempo.

These nonverbal components often indicate the relationship between the speaker and listener.

If an ordinary sentence like, “Please pass the salt” is said in a superior or scornful tone of voice, that tonal quality is what elicits the troublesome emotional response.

Most people are usually much less consciously aware of these nonverbal elements,

which are largely processed and responded to unconsciously.

Although I have read fairly widely in CBT, and have watched client sessions and videotaped

talks by major proponents, I have yet to find any CBT methods that are directed toward

eliciting changes in the nonverbal aspects of a troublesome internal voice.

If you know of any such CBT interventions,

please email me with specific examples or links to examples: andreas [at] qwest.net.

*This video clip is excerpted from an online video training in methods for resolving 

complex PTSD entitled The PTSD Training.

**There are many more examples of Mel Davis’ method, in chapter 11 of my book 

Transforming Negative Self-Talk. 

(Click on the “Look inside the book” feature and sample parts of the book free.)

Norton has recently published a sequel, MORE Transforming Negative Self-Talk.

(Again you can click on the “Look inside the book” feature and sample parts of the book free.)

Both books have many additional ways to change nonverbal aspects of an internal self-talk

to elicit changes in emotional response very rapidly.

***I had previously used Nick Kemp’s method with the woman in the video clip.

Follow-up during the workshop and also some months later verified that she no longer had anxiety in any of the contexts in which she had previously experienced it.

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How To Motivate Yourself - The Trick Behind Lasting Self-Motivation

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f you're passionless about where you're headed, you need to pick a new direction.

Examine your higher self and what your true, passionate life purpose really is.

Once your direction is aligned with your life purpose, visualize your vivid, specific,

and ambitious goals for your life -- the bigger the better. You need a detailed map

before you can get anywhere. Picture your vision in your mind and on paper to make it more real.

Now build your vision deep into your daily life. Review it daily, post it prominently, journal about it, check in with a mentor daily -- whatever it takes to keep you focused on your vision.

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