When You Start to
Enjoy Being Alone, These 10 Things Will Happen
Tony Robinson
Some people think of “being alone” as a bad thing.
It either means you’re anti-social, or unwanted, neither
of which are a good position to be in.
But actually, being alone isn’t’ necessarily a bad thing,
as there are a handful of benefits that emerge once you
learn to embrace solitude.
I’m not advocating you go all Tom Hanks in Cast
Away, because no one can argue the benefits,
and the joys, that come along with fulfilling
relationships with other people.
But I am saying that once you learn to enjoy being alone,
you’re going to grow as a person.
Below are ten amazing things that will happen in your
life when you start to enjoy being alone.
1. You’ll get to
recharge.
Often times when we’re surrounded by other people, we’re
expending a lot of energy.
Trying to keep others happy, make them laugh, soothe their
egos, read their emotions,
and all of the other rigors that come along with regular
interaction.
It can be mentally draining if you’re constantly
connected to other people. A little alone time lets you recharge and take
a break from the emotionally and mentally taxing job of constant interaction.
2. You’ll reflect
more often.
Your life is always moving at a crazy fast pace.
So fast in fact, that it’s probably rare when you have a
moment alone to sit and reflect on your life.
Being alone gives you the perfect opportunity for a
little self reflection.
Since you aren’t spending so much time processing the
thoughts and feelings of others,
it’s the best time to turn your focus inwards.
Solitude provides the perfect environment for reflection.
3. You’ll get in
touch with your own emotions.
Again, when you’re surrounded by other people all the
time,
you’re constantly trying to read, and cater to, the other
person’s emotions.
So much so, that you could end up losing touch with your
own.
When you start to enjoy being alone, you’ll gain a
greater perspective for your own emotions. You’ll create a deeper understanding
of what makes you happy, what upsets you, and what saddens you.
With that knowledge, it’s then easier to regulate your
emotions.
But it all starts with understanding how you feel, and
that comes from a little bit of solitude.
4. You’ll start
doing things you actually enjoy.
When you’re constantly in the company of other people,
you’re always making compromises in order to find
solutions that the entire group can enjoy.
And unfortunately, the things you want most,
may not always line up with what the group wants.
So it’s easy to enjoy being alone once you realize that
doing so gives you more freedom
to do the things you actually want to do.
5. You’ll become
more productive.
Being in the company of other people can be fun and
entertaining,
but it can also seriously affect your productivity. There
are times when the company of other people acts as nothing more than a
distraction from getting your work done.
Time spent alone can be some of the most productive time
in your life—
mostly because there are less distractions, and you can
just put your head down and get to work.
6. You’ll enjoy
your relationships even more.
When you spend time alone on a regular basis, and
eventually start to enjoy being alone,
you’ll come to find that you also enjoy your
relationships with other people even more.
And that’s because the time spent alone gives you a
greater appreciation for yourself.
But it also let’s you appreciate all the great things
that come from your relationships
with other people,
most of which you were oblivious to before.
7. You’ll feel
more independent.
Once you enjoy being alone, you’ll feel more confident in
your ability to actually be alone.
And that naturally leads to you feeling more independent.
You’ll no longer feel that anxiety, or burning desire for
company,
once you learn to enjoy being alone. You won’t feel the
need for constant interaction
with other people, or the anxiety associated with looking
around and seeing no one but yourself.
8. You’ll get a
break from constantly trying to keep other people happy.
Life is filled with relationships, and most relationships
only last when both people are kept happy.
And that can turn into a draining
job depending who that relationship is with.
Now, this doesn’t only apply to personal relationships,
but every kind of relationship.
Once you’re alone, the only person’s happiness you have
to worry about in that moment, is your own. You can treat yourself to thing
that makes you happy, but may have upset someone else.
9. You won’t have
to apologize for anything.
When you start to enjoy being alone, you’ll quickly see
that solitude means you don’t have
to keep apologizing for what you’ve done. So often, we do
things that end up upsetting
other people, or hurting someone else’s feelings, and
then have to quickly apologize for it.
But when you’re alone, you don’t have to apologize for
anything. And that takes a lot of pressure
out of most situations. You get to stop second guessing
everything you say, or every move you make because you’re afraid someone is
going to be offended, or saddened, and angered.
10. You’ll stop
looking for validation.
So often we feel we the need to get the “OK” from our
friends and family before we take action.
We constantly look to other people for advice on what we
should do next.
Of course, there are times where it’s not only perfectly
acceptable to ask for advice,
but downright necessary. But there are also times where
we’re perfectly capable of acting
on our own, be we instead of looking to others for an
answer.
When you start to spend more time alone,
you’ll learn to trust your instincts and make decisions
without any third party validation.
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