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6 Science-Based
Hacks To Grow A Stronger Mind
Gleb Tsipursky
Mentally strong people know that the only things we can
control in life are our thoughts,
feelings, and behaviors, and that everything else is
outside of their control.
Therefore, they focus on learning about and improving
their thought, feeling, and behavior patterns.
They know that success
in life will follow.
I wish I was taught that in school! It I was a real
go-getter, trying to get ahead in life.
I was putting in so much unneeded effort because I was
working hard, not smart. Worse than that,
I was sabotaging myself, as I wasn’t listening to my own
emotions and what I really needed in life. While I was doing alright in my
career, internally I was anxious and depressed,
and didn’t know how to fix it.
The solution came from finding out about science-based
strategies for growing mentally stronger.
I learned to be aware of and improve the only things I
can control in life – my thought, feeling,
and behavior patterns. I grew much happier and mentally
healthier, and gained much more success in my career than I had previously. I
also became passionate about sharing
these science-based strategies, and hope you can benefit
from learning about them.
Be intentional
Knowledge is power! Be intentional and figure
out the truth about your thoughts, feelings,
and behaviors. I remember how I journaled about
all aspects of myself, a science-based strategy
for self-understanding. It wasn’t easy, and I noticed
myself flinching away from certain aspects
of the truth about myself. However I knew that the things
I tried to flinch away from, the truths
I didn’t want to acknowledge to myself, were most likely
to be the ones that sabotaged
my ability to control my thoughts, feelings, and
behaviors in the long run.
It was so worth it, as I discovered so many aspects of myself I didn’t know I
had!
This self-understanding was the key to gaining control
over my thoughts, feelings, and behaviors,
and I continue to journal daily in order to keep on
learning about and improving them.
Understand Your
Emotional Self
Intuitively, we feel our mind to be a cohesive whole, and
perceive ourselves as intentional
and rational thinkers. Yet research shows that in
reality, the intentional part of our mind
is like a little rider on top of a huge
elephant of emotions. The emotional self is the most important one to explore,
as it shapes our thoughts and behaviors in ways we don’t realize.
For example, I learned that I had a strong anxiety
response when people don’t respond to my emails quickly, and my mind started to
spin in circles, figuring out what was wrong. By learning about that unhealthy
pattern, I managed to start to notice and control it, and now am much
better with emails.
Self-Empathy,
Self-Love, and Self-Care
Mentally strong people take the time for self-empathy and
self-care. They listen to their emotional self, and make it feel heard,
validated, and loved, thus providing themselves with self-empathy
and self-love. They also take the time for
appropriate self-care, knowing that if they take care
of themselves, they will have capacity to control their
thought, feeling, and behavior patterns,
and thus succeed in life. This was a particularly tough
area for me, as my emotional self
does not intuitively place a high importance on myself. I
had to convince myself that
by taking good care of myself, I can take better care of
others in my life, just like in airplanes,
you need to put your own mask on first before taking care
of others.
Be Authentic
Be authentic in who you are! Mentally strong people let
people in their lives know about themselves and their needs, goals, and
challenges. When I came out of the closet about my mental illness
to people around me, I lost some relationships. However,
I was much better off overall,
as it would not
have been good for me in the long term to keep relationships with people
who did not support me. In return, I had much better
support from the large majority of people
who remained close to me because they knew about my
challenges. I also gained new friends
who were proud of and admired my decision to be authentic
about who I am.
Life the Life You
Want
To grow mentally stronger, be confident that you know
best what is good for your life.
Listen to advice from others, consider their
perspectives, and then make your own choices.
I had a tough time making a choice about my career,
as I got pushback from my parents about my decision. They
wanted me to pursue a career
that would make money, but I wanted to pursue my passion.
Well, I’m so glad that I made the choice that
was right for me, and did not follow their advice.
I would have been miserable, as I am really not suited
for a traditional nine-to-five track.
Commit to Growing
Mentally Stronger
Perhaps most important of all, mentally strong people are
committed always to growing mentally stronger. They use research-based strategies
such as making a plan to improve their thinking, feeling, and behavior patterns
and set physical reminders for themselves, such as t-shirts that say “Growing
Mentally Stronger.” I got that t-shirt, and made a plan. I now devote more than
ten percent of my weekly activities to growing mentally
stronger, such as by doing meditation, journaling, reading Lifehack and Less
Wrong, and attending a Rationality Dojo.
I hope these science-based hacks help you grow mentally
stronger!
http://www.lifehack.org/330221/6-science-based-hacks-for-growing-mentally-stronger
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