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10 Things Only Outgoing Introverts Would Understand
Robert Locke
Introvert or extrovert?
Think of it as a spectrum
where you will rarely be at one end or the other.
Most people, researchers
say, tend to be somewhere in the middle. They are
called ambiverts.
Outgoing introverts are certainly in that position but people rarely understand
this
and expect people to be
either one or the other. The outgoing introvert knows this only too well.
Here are 10 things that they will resonate with because life is not so
simple.
1. They feel that extroversion is overdone in our society
They may have done group
work at school and team work when employed,
but they feel that quieter
time for reflection and the ability to work by themselves
should be more valued in the
workplace. They cannot always work in a group or together.
2. They can be the life and soul of the party
Outgoing introverts can be
chatty, exuberant, funny and great company at a party.
They will be completely
drained afterwards
and may not want to see anyone
for a few hours or days!
3. They can make excellent sales persons
Tradition has it that an
extrovert is the ideal person to clinch the sale,
but the outgoing introvert
has a lot going for them in the sales world it seems.
They know when they should
keep quiet and when they should push.
They are also pretty good at
tuning into a client’s needs and preferences.
4. They do not enjoy proms
“Everyone shines, given the
right lighting. For some, it’s a Broadway spotlight,
for others, a lamplit desk”-
Susan Cain author of
Quiet: The Power of
Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking
Being forced to take part in
certain rites of passage such as proms is a real turn off
for many outgoing
introverts. They would much prefer to stay at home and read a book.
5. They prefer social media
Social media has helped many
an outgoing introvert to cope with all the shenanigans.
It is sufficiently social
while allowing for quiet downtime with no chatty interruptions.
They do not have to move too
far from their comfort zone.
It’s an ideal combination –
acting social and being alone!
6. They prefer to be left alone sometimes
This sometimes causes upset
when they start to date. They can be chatty and great company
but then they may seem to
withdraw into themselves because they do not answer texts or calls. The fact is
that their social batteries need recharging and this has to be done alone.
7. They don’t use their phones all the time
One thing you notice about
these introverts is that they are deeply focused
and they cannot flit from
one chatty remark to a text or a phone call.
Listening and talking are
just not compatible with their deep thinking and concentration.
8. They pick and choose their social events
Going out may mean a lot of
small talk and that can be pretty meaningless.
Yes, they enjoy company and
social outings but you can bet that they will be pretty choosy
when doing so. Other social
occasions are sometimes risky and tricky for them.
They may go with the flow or
they may appear withdrawn.
9. They value their introversion highly
Silence and moments of quiet
are often regarded negatively. Yet, these qualities
have led to great
discoveries and advanced our civilization for centuries. The outgoing
introvert regards his introversion as a great strength and is perfectly content
to be that way.
They get very angry when
people start to imply that there is something wrong with them!
10. They find it hard to adapt
Problems arise when they are
expected to be outgoing all the time and perform
as if they were circus
clowns. They have to do this to get a job, make friends or network.
They know what society
demands and expects.
It is not always easy to
switch on extroversion like a light.
It’s great being an outgoing
introvert
but wouldn’t it be wonderful if people understood them a bit more?
Let us know in the comments
how being an outgoing introvert has made life easy or difficult.
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