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Tuesday, 30 May 2017

Free Guided Healing Meditation Using Star Magic.

Pink and blue Crain's bill


Turbo Charged Reading: Read more>>>Read fast>>>Remember all>>>Years later
Contact M’reen at: read@turbochargedreading.com

You can TCR music, poetry or self development material for internal knowing.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and  remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube  
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

Advanced Reading Skills Perhaps you’d like to join my FaceBook group ?

Perhaps you’d like to check out my sister blogs:
All aspects of regular, each-word reading and education.
Turbo Charged Reading uses these skills significantly faster
www.ourbusinessminds.blogspot.com                       development, growth, management. www.mreenhunthappyartaccidents.blogspot.com      just for fun.
To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Wednesday, 24 May 2017

Prince Ea Working to Live or Living to Work?

Perennial Cornflower.



Turbo Charged Reading: Read more>>>Read fast>>>Remember all>>>Years later
Contact M’reen at: read@turbochargedreading.com

You can pre-read all your course material for internal knowing.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube  
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

Advanced Reading Skills Perhaps you’d like to join my FaceBook group ?

Perhaps you’d like to check out my sister blogs:
All aspects of regular, each-word reading and education.
Turbo Charged Reading uses these skills significantly faster
www.ourbusinessminds.blogspot.com                       development, growth, management. www.mreenhunthappyartaccidents.blogspot.com      just for fun.
To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Thursday, 18 May 2017

The Stress Pill Seeing Shadows of Lions

Vetch.

The Stress Pill Seeing Shadows of Lions
Ronit Baras

I have written a lot about happiness over the years.
I think that happiness, in all its variations,
is what everyone truly wants in life.
For example, researchers found that parents name happiness as the ultimate goal
of their parenting role, i.e. “Happy parents = happy parenting = happy kids”.
Happiness is not only the goal of parenting; it is also a most basic human goal.
We are here to be happy, to find happiness and to enjoy it.
We want to be happy with our relationships, with our families,
at work, with our health, with money. We want to be happy with our friends and hobbies,
with our achievements, with our homes. We want to be happy with what we have
and we also want to be happy about some things we don’t have.
For example, if I don’t have sick kids, that makes me externally happy.
One small thing that gets taken away from us helps us feel happy about what we have in our life.
For example, it’s only when you get a muscle cramp from lifting too much that you learn to appreciate the simple ability to raise your hand to the steering wheel or to take off your shirt.
That is basic human nature, to define happiness by comparing it to unhappy times.
The most common obstacle to happiness is stress. In reality, stress is fear.
It is fear that manifests in tensions that drive us into primal behavior (fight or flight).
In the old days, it was what made us freeze in the face of a lion.
While in the past, it was very obvious that lions, snakes and other scary animals
were the enemy, today, the enemy is inside of us.
We get anxious and stressed just thinking about a possible scary future.

Stress is the reason most people are sick today.
It is the reason for every emotional suffering and the number 1 killer in the world.
More people die today from things related to stress than from accidents or war.
Stress today is an art. We are stressed so often these days that we have mastered this feeling.
Stress changes our ability to think critically. Over time, we become so sensitive to it
that even a mouse can become as scary as a lion.
Our brains learn to jump to the defense even at the sight of an ant.
We have reached a point where the fear is not always of something real.
Today, all the “lions” are in fact shadows.
Preparing to encounter lions makes you see lions everywhere.
If you are one of those people who are constantly stressed, keep reading.
You may find some tips in this post on how to examine those shadows
and learn to reduce your fear of them.

Preparing for upcoming stress
Stress can be very addictive. We are so familiar with it that we can’t live without it.
Most people in fact, make themselves stressed because they think this is part of their identity.
Sometimes (and this can happen to all of us), we become anxious,
which a form of stress regarding a possible (usually bad) future, in preparation for upcoming pain. We think that if we prepare ourselves for the worst, it will be easier to bear.
For example, “If I prepare for her to tell me that she does not want to be with me, it will be easier”, or “If I prepare myself for not getting the job, it will be easier for me to manage the disappointment”. Unfortunately, it won’t.
We can prepare ourselves for good things, but it is unwise to prepare ourselves for bad things.
Don’t get me wrong. We can take things into consideration, but preparing is a whole other story.
The act of preparing for a bad thing triggers chemicals in the brain that will make you “see lions”
in the most benign places. These chemicals limit our ability to make decision.
We retreat to our most basic instincts: flight or flight.
The brain’s main priority is to keep us alive and giving energy to our most essential survival resources, like breathing and heart beat. Other things that are not essential get ignored,
like how to speak, how to feel, how to present yourself in a job interview,
how to make love to your partner or how to bake a cake.

When we get stressed, we become dumber.
Researchers found that when people are in a state of stress,
their scores on basic tests drop down significantly. It is like temporary dumbness.
We can take into consideration that the future may not be exactly what we want it to be.
This helps us take action to increase the chances of success. But be careful not to go too far.
If you “plan” for the lions, you will see them everywhere.
Today, we have happiness down to a science. There are many definitions of happiness
and each of us must define it for itself. Thanks to positive psychology researchers,
we know more about the way our brain works in order to experience more of it.
I have been the “happiness” coach for a long time. For more than 20 years I have had the words
“be happy” in my email address. People said it made them happy to get emails from me.
In all that time, people often asked me if I was happy all the time. This makes me laugh.
That is not what happiness is. Let me explain. Is it safe to say that the ultimate experience of happiness is orgasm? Imagine if you were “happy” like that all the time.
What would your life be like? I will leave the answer to your wildest imagination.

Rating happiness
One of the best ways to recognize happiness is to put it on a scale.
There are times when we are a little happy, medium happy and even very happy.
There are many versions of happiness and I ask my clients to rate it on a scale of 1-100.
It is amazing how many people start by giving numbers in tens (30%, 70% or 100%).
Over time, they learn to be more specific (54% 68% and 97%).
When we pay attention to our happiness, we learn to see the difference between 60% happy
and 67% happy. This is a very effective emotional intelligence (EQ) technique.
The first rule of EQ is to recognize your own feelings.
That means recognizing whether you are 72% or 82% happy is important.
The happiness scale allows us to calculate the difference between the things that make us happy
and the things that makes us stressed. If you give your happiness a rating of 1-100%,
and your stress a rating of 1-100%, you subtract your happiness from your stress.
If we get a positive number, we are more happy than not. Our goal is to increase this over time.
We all have happy moment and we all have stressful moments.
Each of those moments appears on a personal rating scale.
No two people will rate the same moment by the same percentage.
But we can all come out happy in the end. What we need to do is to give the happy moments
more value and less value to the stressful moments.
The most important thing you have to remember is that happiness and stress cannot be experienced together. We can experience happiness and then feel stressed about something 2 minutes later,
but we cannot be both at the same time. So, every second of stress,
is one second less of happiness that adds up to the calculated sum of your happiness.
Like the threat of ancient times: the lion, people sometimes confuse between stress and genuine threat. Fear of the lion is not the same as being confronted by the lion.
Stress is not the lion itself, it is the response to thinking/ believing there is lion in the area.
People who find themselves stressed a lot often use mechanisms to protect themselves
from the lion, when in fact, they should be focusing on ways to reduce their reaction
to the shadow of the lion.

I’m not saying you should confront your fears head on all the time.
If you are afraid of lions, you won’t go to the jungle for a camping trip.
There is no point putting yourself in the danger zone voluntarily.
But the most important thing is to work on your stress mechanism
and to teach yourself to see the real animal in front of you.
In order to work on limiting stress, first we need to recognize when we are stressed.
The more often we are stressed, the easier it is for things to “push our button”.
It becomes easier for our stress to blow up and out of proportion.  
Over 1,500 posts in this blog are dedicated to happiness.
Reading about happiness is like taking a “happiness pill”.
It gives people a dosage of increased pleasure and a sense of confidence.
Stress works the same way. It is like a “stress pill”.
If he happiness pill brings you happiness, the stress pill gets you stressed.
Join me next time for some ideas of what kind of stress pills there are,
what makes people stressed and how practicing being stress makes us more sensitive to blow up.
Until next time, be happy!
Ronit
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Turbo Charged Reading: Read more>>>Read fast>>>Remember all>>>Years later
Contact M’reen at: read@turbochargedreading.com

You can TCR software and engineering manuals for spontaneous recall – or pass that exam.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube  
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

Advanced Reading Skills Perhaps you’d like to join my FaceBook group ?

Perhaps you’d like to check out my sister blogs:
All aspects of regular, each-word reading and education.
Turbo Charged Reading uses these skills significantly faster
www.ourbusinessminds.blogspot.com                       development, growth, management. www.mreenhunthappyartaccidents.blogspot.com      just for fun.
To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Friday, 12 May 2017

How Smart People Deal With People They Don’t Like

Knapweed and  creeping thistle (the spiny one)


He uses the occasional 'bad' word.

A Wake Up Call To Yourself

The importance and essential nature of making a wake up call to yourself
so you can take your power back if you have given it away, have sacrificed your needs,
wants and desires for those of others, or if you have simply realized that you have always
put the happiness of others above your own, but made yourself miserable in the process.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss three different emails from three different viewers.

The first email is from a female viewer who shares how my work has changed her life and helped her to walk away from an unhealthy relationship where she allowed herself to be treated like a doormat. She has learned to focus on loving and taking care of herself first, and dumping
an emotionally unavailable guy she was trying to change. The second email is from a woman
who talks about the confusing mainstream dating advice of women’s magazines
and how what I teach is true, natural to her feminine essence and helps her to understand men better so she can make better choices. The third email is from a man who finally took his power back
in his failing thirteen-year marriage. His wife was cheating on him and totally disrespecting him.
He shares how he has used what he has learned from my work to turn things around,
have an open marriage and cause his wife to come crawling back.
“In order to give love to others, you must first have it for yourself. If you are in a state of lack
or feel like you do not measure up, then you won’t be able to sustain a relationship for very long, because you don’t feel love for yourself. In order to be a good relationship partner,
you must learn to think, feel and know that you are valuable.
We tend to act consistently with how we view ourselves to be. When we have a low opinion
of ourselves, we unknowingly attract people, who will take advantage of us, use us and not love us. We literally attract what we believe about ourselves. It’s always best to first focus on becoming our best selves, self-reliant, having a compelling purpose and mission in life and making ourselves happy, before we can become a true equal and attract a high quality person who will love us unconditionally.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne

Turbo Charged Reading: Read more>>>Read fast>>>Remember all>>>Years later
Contact M’reen at: read@turbochargedreading.com

You can TCR specialist and language dictionaries that are spontaneously accessed.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube 
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

Advanced Reading Skills Perhaps you’d like to join my FaceBook group ?

Perhaps you’d like to check out my sister blogs:
All aspects of regular, each-word reading and education.
Turbo Charged Reading uses these skills significantly faster
www.ourbusinessminds.blogspot.com                       development, growth, management. www.mreenhunthappyartaccidents.blogspot.com      just for fun.

To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”