Success! Why Expectations Beat Fantasies
Are you building castles in the sky?
Psychologists have found that fantasising about future success can be dangerous.
We all have fantasies about the future.
It’s only natural to dream happy dreams about how things might go right.
We often hear from self-help gurus that just this type of happy dreaming is
a good source of motivation. If we can picture our future success then this will help motivate us.
Loosely speaking there is some truth to this: positive thinking about the future is broadly beneficial. But psychologists have found that visualization and fantasy can be tricky customers
and research carried out by Oettingen and Mayer (2002) shows why.
Fantasy versus expectation
The researchers wanted to see how people cope with four different challenges that life throws at us: getting a job, finding a partner, doing well in an exam and undergoing surgery
(hopefully not all at the same time).
Across four studies the researchers examined how people thought about each of these challenges. They measured how much they fantasised about a positive outcome
and how much they expected a positive outcome.
The difference might sound relatively trivial, but it’s not.
Expectations are based on past experiences.
You expect to do well in an exam because you’ve done well in previous exams,
you expect to meet another partner because you managed to meet your last partner, and so on.
Fantasies, though, involve imagining something you hope will happen in the future,
but experiencing it right now. This turns out to be problematic.
The researchers found that when trying to get a job, find a partner, pass an exam
or get through surgery, those who spent more time entertaining positive fantasies did worse.
Take those looking for a job. Those who spent more time dreaming about getting a job,
performed worse. Two years after leaving college the dreamers:
had applied for fewer job, unsurprisingly had been offered fewer jobs,
and, if they were in work, had lower salaries.
On the other hand those who entertained more negative future fantasies
were more likely to achieve their goals. Similar results were seen for the other goals.
Although positive fantasies were associated with failure,
positive expectations were associated with success.
People who had positive expectations about finding a partner, recovering quickly from surgery
and passing an exam, did better than those whose expectations were negative.
Recall that expectations are built on solid foundations
while positive fantasies are often built on thin air.
Why positive fantasies are dangerous
The problem with positive fantasies is that they allow us to anticipate success in the here and now. However they don’t alert us to the problems we are likely to face along the way
and can leave us with less motivation—after all it feels like we’ve already reached our goal.
It’s one way in which our minds own brilliance lets us down.
Because it’s so amazing at simulating our achievement of future events,
it can actually undermine our attempts to achieve those goals in reality.
This isn’t to say that thinking positively about the future is problematic
or that fantasy in itself is dangerous, just that a certain type of positive fantasy thinking
is associated with poorer performance.
So that’s a warning about the dangers of visualization and fantasy in goal-achievement,
onto more positive findings about motivation and success in future posts.
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