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16 Things You Don’t Need To Say Yes All the Time (Though You Think You Do)
There are two words I consider one of the most powerful and influential, namely “yes and “no.” The right combination of them and using the right one according to the situation guarantees
you more happiness, health and wealth.
To be nice and avoid hurting others, we often say yes though we feel like saying no.
Whereas empathy is a good feature to have, being a people-pleaser has terrible consequences.
If you ever regretted saying yes,
these 16 examples will help you to not make the same mistake again.
1. You don’t need to say yes to people asking for your time.
Some say time is money, but in reality, there’s one thing that makes time the real wealth.
Namely, once it’s gone, it’s gone forever.
Whereas money can always be made up, time never goes back.
Now, don’t misunderstand it with being insensitive ignorant, it’s far from that!
When someone ask for your time, don’t say yes when it conflicts with your personal priorities.
If you think this person deserves your attention,
schedule one day of a month when you can devote your attention to them.
2. You don’t need to say yes to people asking for your money.
There is an adage which says don’t let your friends borrow money unless you don’t mind
never getting it back. If you can’t accept them never paying back, it’s a sign you should decline. Borrowing money can destroy your relationships with other people
and make your life really tense. Oftentimes, it’s better to deal with
the temporary discontent when you say no than experience the problems later on.
3. You don’t need to say yes to people who clearly exploit you.
When someone approaches you only during struggles, you are just a tool to solve their problems. It’s when somebody only takes and never gives that you should consider stop saying yes.
Sure, you should contribute value to other people’s lives,
but folks who batten on generosity are not ones who deserve it.
4. You don’t need to say yes to please your friends.
Saying no to a friend is tricky. You care about them and feel obliged to act accordingly.
The truth is, a real friend will accept your refusal because they value your close friendship.
It’s false people who leave you in case of disagreement.
5. You don’t need to say yes while under social pressure.
Social pressure can be a huge obstacle to overcome. People expect you to go with the flow and please them. Saying no requires courage and confidence but oftentimes it’s a lifesaving decision. Every time you don’t say yes under a big group pressure,
you clearly show your values which everyone respects even when they don’t admit it.
6. You don’t need to say yes so you fit in.
Similar to the previous example, people in the crowd subordinate so in order to not stick out,
you are expected to submit to their influence. But at some point everyone comes
to the conclusion that fitting in is unnecessary and only causes regrets.
7. You don’t need to say yes when rules and dogmas limit you.
Different environments set clear expectations toward behavior within the group.
Whereas some rules are necessary so the society can function, there are many dogmas you have
a full right not to follow. Embrace who you are and don’t let the outdated doctrines change it.
8. You don’t need to say yes to tradition and religion.
Born among people who set religion and tradition as the highest priority,
you are expected to worship these values. If, however, deep in heart you don’t consider them
as truths, that’s a clear sign to refuse following them.
When I stated to my family that I see religion differently than they do, I faced disapproval.
As the time goes by, however, the tension expires and you feel proud of being your true self.
9. You don’t need to say yes to your parents.
Being able to do this is might be as hard as it is to differentiate between following your heart
and being unappreciative toward your parents. They love you and want you to live
the best life possible, but sometimes it’s you who knows better your deepest desires.
When you parents expect you to choose a certain career path,
remember it’s you and not them who will be obliged to that lifestyle.
10. You don’t need to say yes to your boss.
Be cautious, I don’t intend to make you lose your job! But then again, if you do have alternatives and your current boss destroys your life, maybe it’s time to say goodbye and part ways.
11. You don’t need to say yes to things that make your priorities secondary.
If you don’t respect your values, nobody will. You are responsible for what happens in your life and it’s the moment when you fully accept this responsibility
when you can finally give your goals the top priority.
12. You don’t need to say yes to things fighting for your attention.
Today’s world attacks you with distractions on a regular basis.
A skill to ignore stuff begging for your attention is invaluable to survive. Remember,
whatever you decide to pay attention to, you might be neglecting things that actually matter.
13. You don’t need to say yes to sales and extra offers.
I know it’s often hard not to lose your mind during the sales. And marketers are people who know it best. Various psychology tricks are applied to make you say yes and follow the sales funnel.
At first, you feel instant happiness, but then, as your wallet gets thinner and what you bought collects dust, you begin questioning whether saying no wouldn’t have been a wiser decision.
14. You don’t need to say yes to email offers.
As someone who likes to subscribe to interesting newsletters,
I know how tempting certain offers are. You are presented with an almost perfect offer.
As a result, a new need is created and a product for its satisfaction sold.
But if you wouldn’t open the email, would you even desire that very product or service?
15. You don’t need to say yes to time-suckers.
Television, Internet or Social Media, these are all the wonders of technology
which revolutionized the world of communication and information.
But if you don’t control them, they will control you.
It’s easy to get lost staring at the screen and mindlessly wasting your time.
Your brain tends to say yes to comfortable situations and time-suckers definitely count to that.
As we determined in the first point,
your time is the most precious resource so protecting it is obligatory.
16. You don’t need to say yes to notifications.
I disabled every possible digital notification, expect an app that reminds me to work out
and it does it at the right time. But it wasn’t always like that.
Facebook notifications would immediately catch my attention and destroy my focus.
Almost any serious app makes sure to notify its users so they stay engaged and active.
Whereas it’s definitely beneficial to the founders, it’s incredibly harmful to yourself. Turn off every unnecessary notification and never again say yes to distractions begging for your attention.
Set a goal for yourself
"Life is hard at times. But when I overcome more challenges, I become much stronger then.
So I’m going to embrace them."
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