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Wednesday, 30 September 2015

7 Things People With Hidden Depression Do

Larch blossom.


7 Things People With Hidden Depression Do
Robert Locke

People who feel depressed are usually easy enough to spot: they may be gloomy, sad, 
and listless. But what about those who have hidden depression?
They may be an extrovert and good company! This is the problem with concealed depression
as these sufferers are experts in disguising the real situation. How can we spot them,
and how can we help? Here are 10 typical things that people with hidden depression
do to help us understand that something is not quite right.

1. They may be outgoing and cheerful
Researchers at the University of Rochester Medical Center found that depression
was hard to spot when people had a cheerful disposition, especially if they were elderly.
The research team had thought that the introverts would be the ones who would have difficulty
in coming out about their depression but it seems that the opposite may be true.
We should not take it for granted that a cheerful and sociable person may be immune
from depression. We should be on the lookout for some indicative signs and above all,
we should always be empathic listeners.

2. They may hide their depression
There is some interesting research on the attitude that Europeans and Australians
have towards depression. There is so much stigma attached to depression in Australia
that many sufferers are determined not to reveal it at all. They may feel embarrassed
or simply fear that they may lose their job – reflected in the number of sick days taken
because of mental health problems. The figures show that Australians were taking off 14 days
for a bout of depression compared to an average of 36 days for Europeans.

3. They may need healing or closure from some past trauma
Imagine the perfect hostess: she has great kids, a rewarding career and a stable marriage.
It still may be that there is a painful episode in that person’s life
which has never been properly healed. Psychologists have an acronym for this type of person which is the PHDP (Perfectly-Hidden-Depressed Person).
The outward display of confidence and happiness is in sharp contrast to what is going on inside. The problem is often ignored, especially by the sufferer who may end up committing suicide.
The tragedy is that nobody was ever able to spot the signs,
or that the sufferer never had the courage to talk to someone. We should always listen carefully when a friend or loved one talks to us about exhaustion and anxiety.

4. They may have abnormal eating habits
Most experts now believe that there may be a strong link between eating disorders
and depression. These are two separate illnesses; though one may lead to the other,
or they may arise simultaneously. More and more men are suffering from eating disorders.
There may be many causes such as media pressures, body image/exercise, and depression.
If you notice that a loved one has appetite changes, try to talk to her/him about them
and urge them to get treatment. Hidden depression may well be the trigger here.

5. They may be non-committal about their happiness
Very often, people with hidden depression display a lack of enthusiasm for things
they used to love doing. If the person claims that they are certainly not depressed
but they just don’t care anymore, this may well be a sign that something is amiss.
If you read Eve Wood’s book, 10 Steps to Take Charge of Your Emotional Life, 
you will find more examples of how discovering self-empowerment can be the answer
to coming to terms with depression and anxiety. There are also useful chapters
on how counseling, medication, or alternative treatments are possible treatment options.
Getting the person to talk about their problems is usually the first step in seeking treatment.

6. They may display irritation and anger
We usually associate depression with apathy, helplessness, melancholic thoughts and crying.
But there are other symptoms of depression which often go undetected because they are simply dismissed as temporary outbursts. They are assumed to be just blips on a person’s radar
and can be safely ignored – the truth is that angry outbursts and being irritable are often manifestations of depression. Many men choose this way of expressing their depression.

7. They may not be getting enough sleep
If your loved one is complaining about not getting enough sleep (or even oversleeping),
it could be a warning sign that there is something wrong. These sleep problems
may be just the outward sign of a deeper and more troubling cause which could be anxiety, lethargy or depression. Sleep problems and depression are very often closely connected.
It is always worth probing gently to find out what the cause might be,
if the person is prepared to open up.
Many cases of depression go undetected and untreated, often with tragic results.
Between 10% to 15% of people with severe, untreated depression commit suicide.
As we have seen above, people may hide it or fake it.
Sometimes, they just keep it a dark secret which they never want to reveal. In addition,
there are those who have a different public image from their own private and tormented selves.
The challenge is to look out for possible signs and help the person to get treatment.

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/7-things-people-with-hidden-depression.html


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Tuesday, 29 September 2015

Understanding The Authentic Self - Discovering Who You Really Are

Lichen forming  beautiful fairy cups.


Understanding The Authentic Self –
An explanation of what your authentic self is on 3 different levels.
Just because you've said, 'this isn't me' you block your potential to change.
A level: Your authentic you, isn't your present you and its not your past you its who you will become after full self actualisation happens, which is an ideal....................

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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Monday, 28 September 2015

Reasons to learn Havening Techniques



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The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Sunday, 27 September 2015

HOW TO BE A MAN - THE WAY OF THE SUPERIOR MAN

My bayou painting.

HOW TO BE A MAN - THE WAY OF THE SUPERIOR MAN
David Deida an animated book review


How to Be a Man - The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.
When it comes to Masculinity, David Deida has to be the most knowledgeable on the topic.
This is absolutely my favorite book, and if I could only give one book to another man,
it would be this. This first part covered some of my favorite ideas on what it means to be a man. There will be a second part that will go into detail about how the masculine should interact
with the feminine. Enjoy!

Big idea 1 (0:00) : Stop hoping for a completion of anything in life.

Big idea 2 (1:49) : Don't get lost in tasks and duties.

Big idea 3 (2:54) : Be willing to change everything in your life.

Big idea 4 (4:35) : Live as if your father were dead.

Big idea 5 (5:45) : If you don't know your purpose, discover it now.

You can pre-read all your course material for internal knowing.
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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Saturday, 26 September 2015

10 Things Your Older Sister Never Told You

A blind barrow.

10 Things Your Older Sister Never Told You
BY Ivan Dimitrijevic

When you are the younger child in a family you have to listen not only to your parents,
but to older siblings as well. A younger sister will often complain about being treated like a baby,
or being bossed around by her much older sister when they were younger,
but it’s not all sunshine and rainbows for big sis either.
There are a bunch of things that your older sister never really complained about or feel the need
to tell you about, knowing that you will come to understand such things when you get older.

1. She spent years as a single child and lived under stricter rules
When your parents had her they didn’t really know what they were doing
and they felt incredibly protective, so your sister ended up living under very strict rules.
By the time you came along, they had already learned to be a bit more lenient. Your sister essentially paved the way for you, and there were times when she wished you appreciated that fact a bit more.

2. She was put up to higher standards because she was the older one
Not only did she have to take the full brunt of your parents’ attention before you came along,
but she was actually held accountable later on, because she was the older one
who needs to know better. (M’reen. Oh boy! Do I remember than one.) She’d take a bullet for you from time to time, and while it was frustrating it helped her become a more mature
and responsible person, and having a successful older sibling can be beneficial for you as well.

3. More often than not, she’d find herself trying to be a good role model
Since your older sister was forced to act a lot more mature than other kids her age,
she’d end up thinking about her choices and actions, because she knew full well
that you looked up to her. Although she might have wanted to be a bit irresponsible and have fun,
at times she had to use self-control and try to set a good example.

4. She made things easier for you by giving you her hard-earned bits of wisdom
When she went through rough times, got in fights with mom and dad, had trouble in school – 
she had to figure it all out for herself. She had to take a few hard falls in order to get back up stronger, but she was more than happy to give you all the little tips, tricks and gems of wisdom
that she learned the hard way. The advice might have seemed as nagging at times,
but she just didn’t want you to go through all the troubled that she did.  

5. She knew you’d have to make some of the same mistakes, but couldn’t talk you out of it
While she did her best to give you some pointers and guidelines, some things you just have to experience for yourself to truly appreciate. There were times when she watched you make mistakes, and she knew that you wouldn’t listen, but she was still there to comfort you afterwards.

6. She also gave your parents tips and helped them deal with you
Of course, it is inevitable to have a few stern talks with your parents and get punished,
but what you didn’t appreciate when you were younger was the fact that your older sister
gave parents some insight into how you felt and helped them find the best way to approach you
in that situation. She took up the role of mediator when it was necessary, and even sided with you when you were clearly in the wrong.

7. It both excited and frightened her when you became old enough to start dating
When you have a much older sister you are always the baby in the family, but as you grow older there comes a point where you can speak to each other as friends as well. It’s usually about the time you start dating. She gives you tips on how to deal with the confusing mess that is the teenage girl’s psyche, and you can also learn some useful tips on makeup and what to expect from boys.
Talking with your parents about sex is a weird experience, but your older sister can provide
some much-needed guidance without you feel too uncomfortable.
On one hand your sister was glad that she will be able to share such things with you,
but on the other hand she was worried that you might get your heart broken.

8. When she critiqued you or teased you, it was so that you would become a better person
Sometimes your older sister would seem mean, like she didn’t care about your problems
or like she just wanted to tease you for the fun of it. However, a lot of the time it was used
as a means of motivating you to do better or to toughen up – wanting to prove someone wrong
or “show them” is the best source of motivation. If things go a little too far, it’s easy to make
a sincere apology and make up, so this tough love tends to become a common strategy.

9. She had to act as teacher, caretaker and bodyguard,
and she didn’t always know what she was doing
An older sister will stand up for you, help you out with bullies, feed you, help you out
with homework and teach you valuable skills. The thing is, she didn’t receive any formal training
and she didn’t really know what she was doing a lot of the time. However, that didn’t stop her
from trying her best to keep you safe and help you out with anything you needed. An older sister’s boyfriend is also a great influence and can have “the talk” with your new boyfriend.

10. She knew that she’d be the first one you call in an emergency and was ready for anything
An older sister has to be ready for literally anything. Driving you home wasted from a party,
helping you sober up and cleaning up the mess so the parents don’t find out? Check.
Taking you shopping? Check. Borrowing you cash so you can go to a concert you’ve been waiting for? Check. Your sister used to get into all kinds of trouble herself and understand that
she has to be ready to help you out with similar problems, and perhaps even some unique ones
that she never came across. It’s not a big surprise to her when you come to her in a panic,
but she will make sure that you know how big of a favor she is doing for you.
These are just some of the things that a much older sister went through, but never really wanted
to mention. At the end of the day, she loves you like no one else in the whole world,
and while she did help make you into the person you are today, she is aware that you, in turn,
had a big positive effect on her life as well.

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-things-your-older-sister-never-told-you.html

You can TCR software and engineering manuals for spontaneous recall – or pass that exam.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube  
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

Advanced Reading Skills Perhaps you’d like to join my FaceBook group ?

Perhaps you’d like to check out my sister blogs:
All aspects of regular, each-word reading and education.
Turbo Charged Reading uses these skills significantly faster
www.ourinnerminds.blogspot.com               Personal business development.
www.happyartaccidents.blogspot.com        just for fun.

To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”