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Friday, 24 March 2017

Positive Attitude - The 3 Pillars To Cultivating Positivity

Wayfairing.


Video Summary:
We all aspire to positive thinking, at least intermittently.
But maintaining a truly positive attitude, while great in theory is hard in practice.
Controlling our thoughts proves harder than other self-improvement plans.
A true positive thinker remains positive, no matter what. While achieving such an enviable quality will take years of devotion, three pillars are the basis for the transformation.

1) The present moment is inevitable. No fair tacking on "if only." You can't change the present 
(only the future), so failing to accept it for what it is, is fraught with stress and worry.

2) Worry is useless. Needing fear of failure and a tight deadline to motivate you
via thinking you perform best under pressure is short-sighted.
You'd perform better with proper planning and the absence of stress.

3) Cheerfulness is the best strategy. No amount of worry, sadness, fear, or panic will improve
any situation, and certainly not the most stressful ones, including death of a loved one.
The "best" strategy is not based on a single favorable outcome after the fact,
but on the favorable outcome most likely to occur based on the law of averages.
Thumbing your nose at that law once doesn't change the definition of best strategy.
Realists foresee disappointment and failure from "unrealistic" positive attitudes, but they fail
to understand that positive thinking is positive about the situation, not about the outcome.
Positive thinking is outcome-detached. It accepts the outcome with a positive attitude,
no matter what happens.

Disclaimer: All personal development advice and information is provided as-is
and may not suit your specific circumstances. It may also contain errors or omissions.
Neither Actualized.org, nor any of its employees, nor Leo Gura is liable in any way
for any potential damages that may be incurred from this information.
By listening to this advice you agree to take 100% responsibility for your life!

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Saturday, 18 March 2017

How To Heal The Emotional Body - Teal Swan

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In this episode, Teal explains that your feeling body (what most people call the emotional body)
is the truth of who you are at a feeling level. This layer of you contains the imprints
of the emotional aspect of your memories as well as your current emotional state.
It is the bridge between your physical self and our thinking self.
The feeling body interprets and translates the thoughts projected forth
by your eternal consciousness perspective and also by your human perspective into feeling states
or "feeling signatures". This translation is the first step that takes place in order to
enable a being to have a first hand experience of a thought.
This enables the thought to be actualized instead of remain abstract.
This actualization of thoughts enables us to learn and gain awareness better and faster
and this in turn enables personal and universal expansion. Because of the emotional body,
man is able to experience their own thoughts. The thoughts are converted into feeling impressions. The physical body interprets those feeling impressions and as if translating the message,
converts those feeling states into the neuropeptides and hormones that cause the physical reactions in our body that we call "emotions"; emotions ranging from fear, anger and stress to love, compassion and happiness.
The feeling body is not an actual body. It is etheric in nature.
But it can be understood and visualized symbolically like an actual body
(in fact it often is both out of body and in dream time).
You can ask to be shown the visual representation of your feeling body in meditation of you like. With practice, you will no longer need to facilitate an altered state of consciousness like meditation to switch your perspective in order to see the layer of a person's emotional/feeling body at will.
You could observe it as energy, or you could observe it as the representation of an actual body.
In the second half of this episode,
Teal explains how to facilitate "integration" of the emotional body.

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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Sunday, 12 March 2017

Prince Ea Can We Auto-Correct Humanity?

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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Monday, 6 March 2017

How to Help Someone Without Saying a Thing

(White) ground elder and green alkanet.

How to Help Someone Without Saying a Thing
Harriet Cabelly

“The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches
but to reveal to him his own.”  Benjamin Disraeli

Listening. It’s a very powerful tool but unfortunately not well utilized.
I propose that if we all learned to listen better, there would be less of a need for therapists.
I myself am a social worker and have been providing counseling to clients for years.
I have often felt that I was working as a well-paid or glorified listener; that if “lay” people
could just listen better, there would be less of a need for professional listeners.
Those clients who simply need a safe place to unload and vent would already have a space
where what they say matters for that time period, where they feel heard and acknowledged.
As human beings, we all have a universal need to feel heard and understood.
I might be going out on a limb to say that I find many people to be quite self-centered
in their conversation, or perhaps I should say in their monologue.
They love to hear themselves talk, rarely ask the other questions, and when they finally allow
the other person to speak, they quickly bring it right back to themselves.
In the book The Art of Racing in the Rain by Garth Stein,
there is a paragraph on this listening business.
Narrated by a dog, it reads “I never deflect the course of the conversation with a comment
of my own.  People, if you pay attention to them,
change the direction of one another’s conversations constantly…. 
Pretend you are a dog like me and listen to other people rather than steal their stories.”

Tips to Listen Fully
1. Realize the distinction between listening and hearing.
Hearing is an auditory/physiological process. Listening involves the whole person—mind, heart,
and soul.  Attentiveness, interest, and concern need to shine through.
Listen with your whole self. Forget yourself for a short while and show an interest.
There’s so much to learn from people.  Everybody has a story.

2. Reflect back on what the other says.
Comment on it; it makes them feel heard.
All too often we bring it back to ourselves. Let people feel that it’s all about them for that moment.

3. Be present and stay focused.
Stay with the other person’s talk.
It’s obvious when the listener is simply thinking about his next comment.

4. Ask questions—meaningful ones.
Not the concrete 5 W questions (where, what, who, when, why). It shows you really want to understand the other person, not just participate at the bare minimum.

5. Acknowledge feelings.
I know this can sound like touchy feely stuff, but it’s the crux of good communication.
It’s worth repeating again: when people feel understood,
they’re less likely to get defensive and argumentative.

As human beings, our visceral need is to feel held, with words, rather than to receive solutions.
When we get the space and understanding we need, we can usually come to our own answers.
And if not, there’s always time to brainstorm for possible solutions.
In the simple act of listening, you can reveal much to someone else.
What if we all just listened more?

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-help-someone-without-saying-a-thing/

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You can TCR music, poetry or self development material for internal knowing.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
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Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Wednesday, 1 March 2017

How to get stuff done when you are depressed | Jessica Gimeno | TEDxPilsenWomen

Hellibore.


Jessica Gimeno lives with bipolar disorder and wants to expand the discourse
around mental health. It's not enough to just receive a diagnosis, she says,
people have to learn to live with depression and other mental health issues. I
n her talk, she shares the techniques she's learned to help her get stuff done while depressed.

Jessica is a warrior who fights five illnesses daily: bipolar II, polycystic ovarian syndrome, asthma, psoriasis, and the neuromuscular autoimmune disease Myasthenia Gravis (MG). Jessica Gimeno was valedictorian of her class, winning more than 20 speech competitions.
Motivated by a friend’s suicide, she spoke to hundreds of students about mental health stigma and helped thirty students get psychiatric help. In her free time, Jessica is a diehard New Kids
on the Block fan who enjoys pilates, painting, and playing with her nieces and nephews.

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format
but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx

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You can TCR software and engineering manuals for spontaneous recall – or pass that exam.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube  
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

Advanced Reading Skills Perhaps you’d like to join my FaceBook group ?

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To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”

Friday, 24 February 2017

9 Strategies To Deal With Difficult People At Work

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9 Strategies To Deal With Difficult People At Work
Celestine Chua.

Ever encountered someone who frustrates you so much that you feel like you want to pull your hair, jump around the room and just scream out loud? You’re not alone.
Over the years, I’ve encountered my fair share of difficult people.
People who don’t turn their work in as promised, people who don’t show up for meetings,
people who stick vehemently to their views and refuse to collaborate,
people who push back on work that they’re responsible for – and more.
Even as I run my own business, I work on collaboration projects and there are times
where there are difficulties in getting a consensus because everyone is so firm in their views.
Years ago, I used to get bothered and worked up over such situations.
I’d think, “Why are these people being so difficult?”, “These people are so irresponsible!”,
“Just my luck to work with them” or “I don’t ever want to work with these people again!”.
After a while, I learned that these people are everywhere. No matter where you go,
you can never hide from them. Sure, it might be possible to avoid the 1st one or two difficult people, but how about the 3rd, 5th, 10th person you encounter? Hiding isn’t a permanent solution.
What’s more, in the context of work, it’s usually difficult to avoid or hide from someone,
unless you quit from a job totally. Well – I don’t know about you,
but it doesn’t seem feasible to quit every time someone has an opposing view or is being difficult.
So rather than turn to some drastic decisions each time,
why not equip yourself with the skills to deal with them?

Here’s 9 tips which I’ve found to work in dealing with such people:

Be calm.
Losing your temper and flaring out at the other person typically isn’t the best way to get him/her
to collaborate with you. Unless you know that anger will trigger the person into action
and you are consciously using it as a strategy to move him/her, it is better to assume a calm persona.
Someone who is calm is seen as being in control, centered and more respectable.
Would you prefer to work with someone who is predominantly calm or someone
who is always on edge? When the person you are dealing with sees that you are calm despite whatever he/she is doing, you will start getting their attention.

Understand the person’s intentions.
I’d like to believe that no one is difficult for the sake of being difficult. Even when it may seem
that the person is just out to get you, there is always some underlying reason
that is motivating them to act this way. Rarely is this motivation apparent.
Try to identify the person’s trigger: What is making him/her act in this manner?
What is stopping him/her from cooperating with you?
How can you help to meet his/her needs and resolve the situation? 

Get some perspective from others.
In all likelihood, your colleagues, managers and friends must have experienced similar situations
in some way or another. They will be able to see things from a different angle and offer a different take on the situation. Seek them out, share your story and listen to what they have to say.
You might very well find some golden advice in amidst of the conversation. 
Don’t stop now. We are just getting going and there are more useful workplace strategies ahead.

Let the person know where you are coming from.
One thing that has worked for me is to let the person know my intentions behind what I am doing. Sometimes, they are being resistant because they think that you are just being difficult with them. Letting them in on the reason behind your actions and the full background of what is happening
will enable them to empathize with your situation. This lets them get them on-board much easier.

Build a rapport.
With all the computers, emails and messaging systems, work sometimes turn into a mechanical process. Re-instill the human touch by connecting with your colleagues on a personal level.
Go out with them for lunches or dinners. Get to know them as people, and not colleagues.
Learn more about their hobbies, their family, their lives. Foster strong connections.
These will go a long way in your work.

Treat the person with respect.
No one likes to be treated as if he/she is stupid/incapable/incompetent. If you are going to treat
the person with disrespect, it’s not going to be surprising if he/she treats you the same way as well. As the golden rule says, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

Focus on what can be actioned upon.
Sometimes, you may be put into hot soup by your difficult colleagues,
such as not receiving a piece of work they promised to give
or being wrongly held responsible for something you didn’t do.
Whatever it is, acknowledge that the situation has already occurred.
Rather than harp on what you cannot change,
focus on the actionable steps you can take to forward yourself in the situation.

Ignore.
If you have already tried everything above and the person is still not being receptive,
the best way might be to just ignore. After all, you have already done all that you can
within your means. Get on your daily tasks and interface with the person only where needed.
Of course, this isn’t feasible in cases where the person plays a critical role in your work
 – which leads us to our last tip.

Escalate to a higher authority for resolution.
When all else fails, escalate to your manager. This is considered the trump card
and shouldn’t be used unless you’ve completely exhausted your means. Sometimes, the only way
to get someone moving is through the top-down approach, especially in bureaucratic organizations. Be careful not to exercise this option all the time as you wouldn’t want your manager
to think that you are incapable of handling your own problems.
I have done this several times in my previous job and I found it to be the most effective
in moving people who just refuse to cooperate otherwise.
Try out these 9 tips for the difficult people you face at your workplace
and see how they work out for you 
http://www.dumblittleman.com/9-useful-strategies-to-dealing-with/

Turbo Charged Reading: Read more>>>Read fast>>>Remember all>>>Years later
Contact M’reen at: read@turbochargedreading.com

You can TCR software and engineering manuals for spontaneous recall – or pass that exam.
I can Turbo Charge Read a novel 6-7 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
I can TCR an instructional/academic book around 20 times faster and remember what I’ve read.
Introduction to Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
A practical overview of Turbo Charged Reading YouTube  
How to choose a book. A Turbo Charged Reading YouTube
Emotions when Turbo Charged Reading YouTube

Advanced Reading Skills Perhaps you’d like to join my FaceBook group ?

Perhaps you’d like to check out my sister blogs:
All aspects of regular, each-word reading and education.
Turbo Charged Reading uses these skills significantly faster
www.ourbusinessminds.blogspot.com   development, growth, management. www.mreenhunthappyartaccidents.blogspot.com      just for fun.
To quote the Dr Seuss himself, “The more that you read, the more things you will know.
The more that you learn; the more places you'll go.”